I have two kids a girls (3 1/2) and a boy (almost two) but lately i have been really wanting another. not sure why half the time i'm pulling my hair out with the two i have. I'm not sure if it's that i really do want new babies or if maybe there is something else behind my need to have another child
2007-03-21 18:38:42 · 5 answers · asked by Aud 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Only you can decided if you truly want another child. Sit down and make a pro and con list. Really be honest about it. Can you afford to have another child? Do you have the room for another one? Is your husband willing to have another one? Are you at a place in your life to have another? Have a good job or husband dose are settled in a home? In a strong loving relationship? Really look deep before you leap here... once it is done it can't be undone
2007-03-21 18:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just your hormones.. I would wiat for a few months and see if it passes... I think one of each is the ideal family.. we have a 2 1/2 year old boy, and a girl due in June.. and we are done.. we were gonna stop at two anyways.. and having one of each makes it even cooler...
My husband put it into perspective for me.. We can give 2 children a very good life... but 3-4 kids, not so much... and we would rather give 2 children everything possible.. than to have to scrounge for 3-4.... and barely be able to do anything with them or for them... It doesn't matter how much money you have or don't have... 2 is a good number, and 2 kids for us, is enough....
Think of it this way too.. how old are you... how old are you gonna be when the last one moves out??? if you continure having babies, you won't ever get any "me" time again... at least not until you are too old to know what to do with all that time.. I would still like to do things when I am young... I am 23 so when our baby is 18 I will only be 41 and will still have plenty of time to do whatever it is that my hubby and I have always wanted to do...
It is completely up to you, but I would consider everything in the decision very carefully......
Good Luck!!
2007-03-22 01:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again, I wish people would give their age...it would be a big help. My suspicion is that you are a fairly young mom and there is not much about we humans that is instinctual. Most of what we are, we learned but the motherly instinct has pretty well been documented so you are probably just exhibiting your instinct which is perfectly normal. I for one actually find it very attractive in a woman because it really speaks right to the very soul of what womanhood is about which is to bring new life into the world. Anyway, I would not fret about it at all. And don't let finances bother you either unless you are at the poverty level now. I remember my best friend once asked his dad after he had been married a few years and he asked him "Dad when do I know if I can afford to have kids?" His father told him after laughing , " you can never afford them so don't let that stop you" So when your husband gets home tonight ...go make a baby....oh that will be fun........Good Luck!
2007-03-22 01:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of 3 and I think you should wait until your two kids get older so it can be easier for you to take care of a third kid. I mean you need to not feel the way you do because stress can make you sick and your kids need you healthy.
2007-03-22 01:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by nutty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Until you figure out if you really want a new baby or if you are filling a void, then you should wait.
2007-03-22 01:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋