We had a fatal contention right before the baby was conceived, the reason for the fight was he intentionally ignored valentine's day which I consider the most important day for lovers. Since conception I've physically suffered a lot but today he still said some bad words to intentionally hurt my feelings. Why should I suffer physically and psychologically to carry a baby of a lousy man who does not care about me at all?
2007-03-21 18:35:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
your not suffering to carry a baby of a lousy man. Your "suffering" (as you put it) for YOUR child. You should never compare your feelings about a man to your feelings about your child. He doesn't care about you. Fine. Leave him and start Caring about yourself and your child and make good out of it. If not, then I feel sorry for your baby. You must be young.
2007-03-21 18:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Why should I suffer physically and psychologically to carry a baby of a lousy man who does not care about me at all?" don't pin your anger for your man on the baby. that child is a part of you. are you carrying this baby to please him? stop being a victim. if you don't like something, change it. you can be in control. so start acting like an adult, take responsibility for your mistakes and move one. if this requires you to leave your man, so be it. your child, once born, will look to his or her parents as a model and will pick up on BOTH of your actions. so, step up to the plate and make a decision. life isn't easy. if it was, it'd be boring. so stand up, count your blessings, and move on. that child AND you are important right now.
2007-03-23 04:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you suffer? You tell me.
It almost sounds like you are wanting to end this pregnancy to get back at him for not treating you right (I'm referencing your other question about an over-the-counter "abortion" pill).
I'm not sure what you are looking for... Someone to tell you to leave him? Or someone to tell you to go ahead and have the baby?
I'm still in shock that you ended the relationship over Valentines Day...
Anyway, for what it's worth... Leave him, have the baby, move on...
2007-03-22 01:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by elliesmomee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with him leave him. Seek out conuling for you. Don't take it out on the baby. He/she did not ask for this. You chose to sleep with him and it is him that you are angry/unhappy with not the baby. And I hate to break it to you but if he loved you he would not intentionally do things to hurt you. Get out now. Raise your child and find someone or something that makes you happy.
2007-03-22 01:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol, easier said than done, its hard to leave someone you care about, even when they are doing things and saying things that hurt you. My husband cares more about his friend and work than his own family. I`m 21 weeks pregnant and it seem that when we fight i get all depressed and it hard to even take care of myself, I know i have to because i`m pregnant but, when your so down you don`t even want to go on with life. what keeps me going is my children and the one i`m caring. i know i have to be strong for them, they did not choose to come into this world ,i brought them here so i better stay strong. I plan on leaving my husband because i can`t take it anymore. Trust me The don`t change they just get worst. But you can do it, you can get out of this relationship before it really breaks you down, the longer you stay the harder it is to leave.
mother of 3, pregnant with our 4th
2007-03-22 01:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by octavia137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby
lose the man
he's not worth it
if your thinking bout keeping the man realize if he hurts you he'll probably hurt the baby
children raised in abusive households are more likely to be abusive
you shouldnt suffer
there are places you can go
places for battered women (this inclued mental)
places for single mothers
he's not worth it
you can care for the baby on your own
2007-03-22 01:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man treats you badly, get a new one. There are plenty of men out there. Women do not deserve to be treated badly. You deserve better than to be treated badly. If he doesn't love you, then leave him. If he treats you this way, imagine how he's going to treat your son or daughter.
2007-03-22 01:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by ToSunnyMexico 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No baby should be born to people like you. Selfish, self centered. I can't believe you. Valentines Day give me a break.
2007-03-22 01:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by MRSC 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋