why does it happen?

Question

when sometimes i'm sitting alone, i start to cry. but i dont know for wat. maybe for the guy i liked who didnt care for me and its more than 10 months. it really feels weird.wat should i do?

Answer 1

It sounds like you might be depressed. And, no, I don't think it's wise to start drinking. Seek out someone to talk to, or maybe even write it down in a journal. Time does not heal everything regardless of what most people say, it just gives you more time to dwell. I personally have been upset about the same guy for almost 2 years, and I'm just now starting to get over him, but only because I've focused my attention on a new one. You just need to talk it out and release anything you have built up. And don't feel silly if you go to a councilor of a psychologist. I actually have my first appointment with one in a couple of weeks, because I'm tired of talking my friend's ears off and having them not really listen. Also, talking to my mom always helps me, but be careful with that because moms tend to be rather bias. But it isn't completely normal to just burst in to random tears (even though I do it too) you deserve to be feeling happy and alive, so take care of yourself and get some help. Good luck!

Answer 2

Don't sit alone. make friends. Talk to someone. Discuss your mental state with the ones you trust. It's just 10 months. As time passes by, all your wounds would be healed. Just keep in track with your life. Writing a journal would help. Discussing would help further.

And please, whatever happens, don't cry for some guy in your life. I know it does hurt, but crying would make you feel like a loser. Win the battle. Motivate yourself. You could live better without him. Trust me, life's got a lot more to offer. In case you feel extremely lonely and cannot talk to anyone, you can try out for email buddies (doesn't matter if it's a boy or a girl). I don't mind being one... ;-)

All the best...

:-)

Answer 3

I would say love urself first if u want others shuld love u. Invest in urself i.e. join some hobby class besides ur routine and if u r not particularly interested in something then do a bit of introspection to find out what u like to do. But hobby should be apart from reading ie. where u can sweat say dance, aerobic, yoga, singing, instrumental music the sweating out will be interesting and take out negative emotions out of ur body. U can even play say tennis, badminton, skating etc. U will feel miraculous changes in u. Further I quote a saying " if u love somebody, set it free, if it comes back to u, it is urs, if it doesn't then it never was" If a person does not belong to u, why should u waste ur emotions on him/her. Prove that he is loser and not u. Hold ur chin up. Shine and be happy. God will give u someone better but only if u are positive in ur deeds. So be happy and cheer up life is precious, do not waste it.

Answer 4

To tell you the truth everyone crys. I think the best thing that you should do and please listen is go to google video and watch "The secret law of attraction" video. You can have anything you want. you know your not ever alone, just start having fun, be in a good mood every day. it will help out a lot.

Answer 5

The next time u're alone and u know the tears are goin to roll, take a deep breath and relax. Think bout something you like, something funny. It will help to divert your mind from thinking bout your ex. It works for me. I normally think bout the episode from Seinfeld or Frasier which makes me happy and then i will be all ease up and relaxed. Why waste your time and your tears for someone who's gone. He wud most probably have carried on his life with someone else and enjoying himself and u're here crying for him. U can't control the memory but u certainly can block them. Meaning whenever the thought of him comes rushing to your mind, stop it by thinking bout something else which pleases u.

Answer 6

It happens because it hurts. No one, no matter how strong, comes away from a situation like this without feeling badly in some way. What concerns me is that it's been ten months. I think it's safe to say that you haven't been able to move on from this, and you might look into some counceling. It will help you get some closure to this past relationship, and help you move on.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Well sweetie it sounds like u have not even begun the whole"over him" process. I would say talk it out. i mean really talk about it with someone who is not going to judge, just listen and in time u will see that if it is over than it really is not worth the time u are putting in it now. It is weird because u still think u need that relationship to be u and trust i am sure i don't... just my thoughts but good luck...K :)

Answer 8

Start doing things you really enjoy, you'll increase your chances of meeting people you have a lot in common with.It is likely that after 10 months, he has moved on. keep busy so you won't feel lonely. Confidence is attractive, you may find that you have secret admirers. Full speed ahead...

Answer 9

Hello !

Dear ,I am really sorry to know that and be assure that to help you with the situation, that's the revert of love in your that coming out as the cry...........you are totally influence by the person whom you were in touch with him.That's not wired ,but you need to control your feeling by interacting alot of people to avoid that feeling !

things will change will time ...........but remb you will not get your love again

So its all you who need to make the decision !

Go ahead ..............

Answer 10

It sounds like are mourning for something you thought you had but lost. It is like grieving. There is a process to grief. Read up on it. Educating yourself about emotions can be very empowering! Try it!

Good luck!

Sincerely,
Angel