and to guys - if you are still a virgin (in your 20's) and do feel the pressure, would you just find a random girl and "give it away" or save yourself for THE GIRL you've always admired?
2007-03-21 18:20:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Virginity it's like loosing sleep ,wants you loose it you can't never get it back.
2007-03-21 18:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A random girl could come with a random disease, so "giving it away" to a random girl should be x'ed off your list lol.
Be your own person and don't let peer pressure cause you to lose what you can NEVER get back.
Why not just wait until you're married, that way you won't have to worry if you're going to be making a mistake.
It really can cause problems in the future. I would love it if I was my hubby's only. I used to get soo mad at times because I wasn't his first. Although he never said anything, I can't help but think he probably has had the same feelings.
2007-03-22 01:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to be a virgin till I was married. I joined the military and did not want to die a virgin so I gave it away to a girl that would and wanted to have sex with all the virgins.She found out I was a virgin and she went after me. I should of waited for the right girl at lease one that was beautiful you all was remember the first. After that find the one that is compatible with you in the bed room before you marry. Or it well be miserable marriage.
2007-03-22 01:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here is my answer to this question. I was very strong on the idea of waiting for "the one" and thats what I did. I waited til I was 19 (I know thats not 20's) but I'm glad I did because on the flip side, my guy is the only man I've been with, I'm not the first girl he's been with.. No everyone deals with that different. It crushes me, that I wasn't his first, and he hates it too because he knows it hurts me! So If you do just give it away for the heck of it... you might have to deal with you doing that when you find the one! And if she's anything like me there will be ALOT of crying involved:)
2007-03-22 01:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by js95116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think it should be made a big enough deal to save it for anything in particular. It's just how an individual copes emotionally in a situation like that. I ended up losing mine in college when I was 18 to someone I knew from my high school. We weren't dating, and I didn't like him in a romantic way, he just wanted to and I was like, "well, f*ck it...might as well" because I wasn't waiting for anything in particular. I think if you're young and in high school, then yeah, it would be wise to wait and save your innocence, but seeing as most of the college age population has lost it, there's no real point in waiting unless it's a religious factor. I didn't want to wait because, what if I had found "the one" and then lost it, and I was horrible due to lack of experience? That could ultimately cost you a relationship based on the guy/girl you're doing it with. Most people wouldn't want to try again if the first time was complete sh*t, ya know?
2007-03-22 01:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by LostAdviseGiver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I was saving myself for someone I truely loved. I fell in love with her and she told me she never loved me back. I was hurt. But I'm still a virgin and I'm kinda sick of waiting for the right person..cause there is no such thing. Each time i think I found her I end up getting a dose of reality. And I become older and unloved. I keep wonding will I ever find someone that means as much to me as the one that got away.. probably not...thats why i'm sick of waiting.
2007-03-22 01:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a virgin and I am in my 30's. I have had plenty of opportunities to "give it up" so to speak, but I have not. I am proud to wait until I am married. Most are not and some can or will not wait. It is all about personal choice for everyone, man or woman. It is up to you. I recommend waiting. It is safe and will be the most valued thing in your life. Trust me I know. I can't wait to make love with my husband. It will be the ultimate experience with the one and only person that deserves it. Good Luck.
2007-03-22 01:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by stuffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so unfortunate that the phrase "LOSE your virginity" ever came to be. It isn't something we should "lose" like a misplaced pair of gloves. We will always remember where it went, and often regret the choice. I think it's very important to give it, as a gift, to someone who will appreciate it for what it is. I think it's too important to just lose. Wait until you are in love, with someone who will cherish the memory as much as you will.
2007-03-22 01:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still a virgin and if I don't find the right guy I will remain a virgin until I am dead. I don't want to lose my virginity just because I want to fit in.
That is too middle school. Too naive. Too... shallow.
2007-03-22 01:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by eratomo9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well once you start having sex you realize what you've been missing all those years and feel like a fool for not starting sooner.
besides, even if you save yourself till marriage you could still get a divorce, then you'd really feel like a fool for waiting all that time
2007-03-22 01:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by brian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not give it away just to be getting rid of it
but I wouldn't be avoiding sex with potential marriage candidates just because I wanted to stay a virgin...
2007-03-22 01:25:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋