I realy love my bf but i just heard something last night that hurt me so much and in fact it shouldnt. The thing is there were a girl before me and things didnt turn out the way it was suppose to and then i appeared on the scene and he told her that he wants to be with me.
Now he is missing her friendship and he dont want to make contact again he afraid she would expect more that friendship.
I know that i should be glad that he had chosen me and he realy made me feel like the one last night, but why cant i forget about it why am i still thinking about it, why is it hurting so much?
PS: i did tell him to make contact with her at let her know from the start that he just wants to be friends. i just want him to be happy.
2007-03-21 18:14:14 · 14 answers · asked by SAgirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess because you're scared if he's friends with her he might start having feelings for her. It's understandable to feel that way. Kudos to you for not being controlling, and telling him it's ok to be friends with her.
Be happy that he was honest with you, and told you how he felt. That's a big deal to a guy, and most don't do that!
2007-03-21 18:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by FlyingNutSquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't hurt. It's the games people play with love that hurt.
Sounds like this guy didn't really choose anything. He can't have his cake and eat it too. That's just life. It's a funny thing when someone has a choice between two people. Nine times out of ten, they regret the choice they made and go back & forth until both relationships go up in flames.
You're jealous and that's understandable. This guy shouldn't have told you he misses Girl #1's friendship. He can't have it both ways. He's either with you or not. For whatever reason, the other relationship didn't work out. That's not your fault. Your guy can't go back in time and that's exactly what he wants to do.
You are being the bigger person by saying you want him to make contact with the other girl. That's mature but, it's also pretty stupid. If she knows he can't live without her friendship and she still wants more than a friendship, she will get it whether you're in the picture or not. That's just a slippery slope and I know you're trying to make him happy but, you're almost creating a bad situation.
Tell your guy he needs to grow up and be a man. He can't have it all. He can be friends with you as well. If he's missing the other chick so much, let him go be with her. Remember, it didn't work out for a reason. He can't seem to remember that so maybe you should remind him. If he just can't not be her friend, let him go. You can't make someone stay with you and why should you hurt because he wants to be friends with some woman that makes you uncomfortable. What about your happiness & feelings in the matter? You're in the relationship too.
I know you think you're doing the right thing. Maybe you are. In my experience, if someone is looking back to their past, they can't move forward and don't focus on the present or the future. That's a huge waste of your time and more than likely, that person will end up leaving you anyway.
2007-03-21 18:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great that he was honest with you but don't you almost wish he would have kept it to himself?Situations like that can make us feel vulnerable and insecure but without the ups and downs in life we wouldn't have anything to learn and grow from.So what seems tragic or upsetting now will soon be forgotten by you one way or another as the next incident comes along that you must face.You will get through this.
2007-03-21 18:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because we all expect too much. We expect them love us but at the end no. We expect they understand us but at the end, no. We expect they would do everything for you but at the end, no.
I only can say it is good that he is honest to you. You love him and he is confused in this moment... I think you don't know what to do. I hope when the time comes, you will make the right decision.
Sorry, I think I can't really answer your question.
2007-03-21 18:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know how you feel my ex was my true love i mean we were expecting a baby to come and we were ingaged to be ingaged and were already naming the baby i mean the works...... well we broke up after i had a miscarage....... it hurt us so bad he wont talk to me cause i lost the baby while training a horse........ so im going to tell you this now if you love him tell him but wait till you get married to even decide to have sex or a realy searious relationship....... if you need any more help and i mean any just e-mail me and i can help you.
2007-03-21 18:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
proper now, sure. final week, it was once strong. Things difference so speedily.... love simply complicates all feelings. When you get harm, the harm is one hundred instances worse. When it is well, its one hundred instances bigger than whatever else. Love is an exaggeration
2016-09-05 11:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by pizzaro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boy f. loves another girl you can not push him
to love you by force
you should have good enough to keep him otherwise you will
be loser,
be strong and find your true solmate
don't count on nasty unfaithful guys , nver hurt your feelings
90% of guys are not serious
2007-03-21 18:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mohsen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a god gifted and a part of our life and if it hurt or take out from our life it will definately hurt us.
2007-03-21 18:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rittam m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no! You Didn't have Sex w/Him and then tell him it's okay to talk to her too?
He's not glad to have "chosen you", he's glad to have USED you!
He probably doesn't care about neither of you and now has probably taken both of your Virginities!
He'll only move on to expose and use more girls just like you!
2007-03-21 18:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love hurts because with each and every person you grow to like and then...gasp!...love, you give them a piece of your heart that you trust them with. Every moment you give them another deposit until...BAM....the check bounces and they leave you with 2 cents worth.
fart
2007-03-21 18:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by ARGH! (Usually a sunny person) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋