I wrote this note to him because it seems like we're heading too deep into something that could lead to disaster. We haven't done anything yet, not even gone out, but we do alot of flirting & heavy talk through messaging, but I met him awhile back where I used to work, but never acted on it because I was with a bf at the time, and now that he's married now and telling me he's having problems, hopefully before I came into the picture, he wants to go out with me saturday night. here is the note I sent, tell me if it's good or clear to the point.
2007-03-21 18:09:22 · 7 answers · asked by c h i l l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I've just been thinking about all of this, and I just want you to know that I seriously can't get involved with a married guy. And of course we can be friends, help each other out if you ever need someone to talk about, or discuss business and what not, but thinking it could become a fun fling or satisfying the affectionate part that you are missing from your marriage, just wouldn't be right, out of respect for everyone involved...
2007-03-21 18:10:24 · update #1
Sorry if I'm looking too far into this, but as we've talked it seems more that we are getting too hyped up for something that could be a disaster. So..with that said, if you still want to go out saturday night, we can talk and everything, but I'm just going to hold my affectionate side, just so you know. and like I said, I'm just saying all of this, not trying to look too far into it, but by the way we've been talking, it's something that I had to let you know, and to be real with you about. I honestly don't want to get hurt again by anyone, and I know you're still married, and probably live with your wife, so it would just be a tough situation, unless you were divorced. We're open right? well I'm being open about this with you. I hope you understand at least."
2007-03-21 18:10:56 · update #2
You did the right thing. You are very smart with your heart.
2007-03-21 18:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Marina D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to see someone has enough sense to see disaster and try to avoid it. It would NOT be a good idea to go out with him because even if your intentions were good, once you are together your common sense may leave you! He belongs with his wife; leave him alone!
2007-03-21 18:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a very good explanation of why you cannot get involved, it woutlines your expectations and what you want/are ok with in the relationship. If its how you feel, you did a great job.
2007-03-21 18:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by meh. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but i don't think you owe him that much of an explanation. actually, i think you should "just say no". no friendship, no nothing. he is married and dishonest and looking to betray his wife. i wouldn't want to be involved in that. if not you, he will cheat with someone else.
everyone has problems in their marriage. the one he should be working it out with and "confiding in" is his wife.
2007-03-21 18:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by mariah c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur sending mixed messages, u dont want to be involved with a married guy? ur holding back ur affection? u still want to be there for him if he needs to talk? ur willing to go out saturday? u cant be friends with and date a married guy that has feelings for u. u have to discourage his feelings for u at all costs
2007-03-21 18:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay, but I think that he will start lying more saying that he has left his wife, even if he hasnt, my ex did this to me and I was the wife so I know how it feels on the other end. :( You are doing the right thing.
2007-03-21 18:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not go out with him.
2007-03-21 18:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by hizbizbiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋