I liked this guy,got his number and we text and chatted.
He said he liked me etc,i was a bit more cautious with my replies as i was with my ex for 6 years and have little confidence left.
Anyway i now feel worse as this guy has just totally blanked me,he asked if he could call me on saturday,i said yes and he didn`t call.I sent him a friendly text saying if he`s not interested then it`s fine and just left it at that thinking he`d at least give me a text back at some point.He had said the same thing to me the night before and told me he was interested and if i wasn`t let him know.
Anyway i know he`s not interested anymore but can`t stop thinking about him and it`s driving me insane and i wouldn`t lower myself to try and contact him again but i will see him when i go into his work and i`m dreading if he blanks me there as well as he used to come over and have a laugh and joke with me.
Any advice on how to stop him bugging me?thanx!
2007-03-21 17:58:09 · 16 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol,yes i know i`m a bit weird,dont worry i dont take that as an insult!!
2007-03-21 18:05:18 · update #1
I don`t mean bugging me as in him personally annoying me,i mean he`s bugging me becuse i can`t stop thinking about him,i should have written that a bit better!
2007-03-21 18:08:34 · update #2
You have to replace him with me, of course. Let me take you out, or maybe we'll spend a night in. He'll never bug you again, I can promise you that.
2007-03-22 11:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rude 4 U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in vulnerable state right now. Get out of that. Fill your life with things that empower you. Get to know yourself! Learn to be alone before becoming dependent on another person and if that is a pattern with you, figure out why that is. Do you just want a friend or do you really just want to pass the time with someone until you find "The One"? Making friends is a good thing, but building relationships is not necessarily the same thing. Keep in mind that this growth is about you and not about other people and their intentions. Don't be afraid of making mistakes - this is how we grow.
That is the best advice I can give you. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Angel
2007-03-21 18:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Immanycegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should give him some time.sometimes guys get confused on what they want let things cool off. what ever you do don't call him eventually if he likes you he'll call you and take it from there. and if you do happen to run into him act casual and happy. smile at him as normal as possible what ever you do don't flirt. He's probably playing hard to get cause he knows you totally dig him.
and if you really want him to stop bugging you don't answer he's call's and ignore as much as possible. And never let the guy know how you feel about them to short from the time you meet them this could be a disadvantage for you. What did you say to him when he asked you if you were interested in him?
could your answer have been the cause of his change of heart?Don't worry there's always better out there.
good luck
2007-03-21 18:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by amores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nati, i'm sorry to read you are still having the same problem.
but to cut this as short as i can.
first you are not weird.
second, you seem fixated on this guy. all you have to do is to blank him like he blanks you.
i know you can not stop thinking about him, but he obviousley coudn't care less for you or your feelings.
so do yourself a favour, make plans to go out and treat yourself to something nice (maybe a day out shopping or a night out) what ever you want and love to do.
keep your body language open, keep a smile on your face (even though you may be sad inside). and a better guy or several will aproach you and may be ask for your number, as i said before have a few cards ready with an untraceable number and or email address on it. for the purpose of giving to interested guys. only once you know them and trust them could you give them your official email address etc.
remember i said you only need to ask and i can set you up an email on my server, 100MB no charge.
as far as getting him off your mind the only way is to find something else to obsess over or get passionately interested in. only you can decide what that passion is. could it be old friends and nights out on the pull for example, out on your own trying new hobbies and interests. the choice is ultimately yours.
i wish you all the best and good luck in your love life!
2007-03-21 19:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not bugging you but it does sound like you have a crush on him. If you really want him to get the idea that you're not interested (if you're not) then if you see him at his work don't be rude but don't give any emotion either otherwise you could give mixed signals. He blanked you but it doesn't sound like you've known the guy long anyway. Rude yes but you really shouldn't give it more thought than it was in inconsiderate act on his part & it says nothing negative about you.
2007-03-21 20:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're interested in each other, but have somehow got your wires crossed. if he hasn't made the move yet then you've got to drop the hint. but it's got to be positive, not "if you're not interested" text stuff.
talk to the guy, show a little interest. looks like he's a bit shy. but talking to him is either going to make things happen or give you a good reason not to bother. either way it's going to help stop this situation bugging you.
2007-03-21 22:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by nessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are confused whether he is irritating you now or u don't want to get irritated cause u are thinking about him all the time.Solve this first , after that take action like if u can't stop thinking about him then start thinking about anyone else and stop looking at him when he arrives so that u don't get insulted and don't give him space to talk to u.
2007-03-21 20:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting someone else because i have the same problem b4 but when i saw someone else and i really like him the a few days later since i didnt see my ex i totally for got about him
2007-03-22 02:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by winx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confusing...You can't stop thinking about this guy but you want him to stop bothering you ?? That is the stupidest thing I have heard of.
Tell him you don't want talk to him anymore. If you don't want to talk to him don't play mind games with him by saying to contact me if you like me then wanted him not to bugg you.. Make up your mind of what you want . You can't have it both ways.
2007-03-21 18:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
try to be cool about it all, let him see your not bothered and he will soon come over to you, wheras if you let him see that its annoying you he will just continue making you feel the way you are, and if he has decided that your not for him then forget him he is,nt worth your worry.
2007-03-21 18:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by JOJO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋