After 5 yrs of marraige with a 3 and 5 yrs kids. I love him but the marraige has been unhappy for me he didnt treat me the way I wanted him to. He acted like he was single like he didnt have to tell me anything he would go out a lot, cheated and things of that nature. I know that I want a husband that is a family man, but I know that my husband just needs time to grow up. But I cheated on him instead of leaving him and he found out. He says he doesnt want me any more but I know have these feelings like I cant live with out him. Ive always been the type of person to say let work on this marraige no matter what mistakes he makes or I make, but now that I made a mistake he doesnt want me. I feel like Im getting drumped when I should have dumped him a long time ago. But I want him now because we have 2 kids and a foundation. I never wanted to say my first marraige. Are these feelings that im having just break up feelings or should I really try to get him to want me again?
2007-03-21 17:42:07 · 25 answers · asked by wonder woo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a sad story. I feel for your situation. The thing about cheating is you can neve erase it. You can only forgive it. I guess that's the place to start: forgive him and forgive yourself. I would pray a lot to Jesus and let Him work things out in your life. Things you could do is start over trying to be a good friend to him. Do not let your anger rise with him. Be an example that he can admire! If he will come back to you, he needs a good reason.
It really sounds hopeless, but from personal experience I can say that's when you ask God for help! I wish you the best.
2007-03-21 17:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 03:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tamika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from and by this I mean I have cheated on my husband in the past and he has always taken me back because he has a love for me that he cant have for no one else maby you both could try marriage counseling ask him if he loves you as much as he has in the past would he consider this and tell him that your children are going to be hurt the worst in the picture because they are so young and dont understand what is going on they need both parents at this age and i know this because i have a 9,6,and 4 yr old and they were torn apart and missed me when I was gone with the other person.hope this helps from a friend who knows what you are going through if u want to e-mail me and talk just e-mail me at (catlett_1980@yahoo.com)
2007-03-21 17:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you just want to rewrite the breakup script so its you dumping him. Get a life.
If you really want him back for keeps, not just so you can dump or torment him, then look into your own heart...win him over by being incredibly sexy. Show an interest in his life, touch him like he turns you on, and DONT croud him. If he wants space away from you then not giving it freely will guarantee he'll resent you.
Anyway if you cheated on him, why is it he found out - did you just do it to get at him?
2007-03-21 17:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to him...but if you say you should have dumped him a long time ago I don't even think it is worth your time. You both sound like you don't really want to be married to each other, some counseling/therapy might help but again he has to agree to that. Good luck!
2007-03-21 17:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with number #1 opinion. He should dump you. It shows that you have low self teem putting up with such a behavior and life passing by so fast every single day. We have such short lives and waste them with people who does not appreciate us. Why? Kids? Not enough. He will cheat again, again and again and maybe you too. No counseling will fix it. There is cero trust.
Good luck
2007-03-21 17:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a close female friend you can confide in for advice? That's what I would recommend. Otherwise look for advice particularly from married/mature women. Since there are others involved, particularly children, you should ensure that you are getting the best possible advice.
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2007-03-21 17:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I odnt understand why you want him back.... he went out acted single, chated on YOU then you do the same htings and HE doesnt want YOU back??
Thats crazy, dump the loser your just feeling sad and lonely which is normal.
Get a guy that is going to treat you right from the word go!
Good luck!
2007-03-21 17:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
um im sorry but that relationship is pretty much screwed up. ppl that love each other and want each other happy dont hurt each other like that. he deserves better and u deserve a lotttt better than he does.
Go ur separate ways.
U dont have to stay together because of the kids, think about ur happiness as well.
2007-03-21 17:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
first of all you have to admit that the marriage was in trouble
before you cheated i mean that if you want to work it out
deal with why you did what you did. other wise it make no'sense to try to work it out. if he want to get back with you
it about trust, take some time to see what you really wont
then go from there.
2007-03-21 17:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋