Should children be spanked?
2007-03-21 17:38:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just curious. I do sometimes spank my son's. I think there are other ways to guide children.
2007-03-21 17:39:22 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with a spanking. I'm a mommy of six and me and my husband have been approached in a restaurant and complimented on our childrens behavior. They always ask "how do you do it?" just to watch the look on their face I want to say "drugs" LOL but instead I give my all time favorite "threats, I threaten them all the way in here" do you know why threats work? because they hate spankings. Spankings work with some. But sentences work with all mine!
2007-03-21 17:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by THE mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do believe children should be spanked. I don't think enough are. I was spanked, yes it hurt; but it was suppose to. I had done something wrong.
With that said, there is a fine line between spanking and abuse. I think so many parent's say they don't' spank b/c it's unhealthy for children; b/c our culture has brainwashed parents and kids into believing it's child abuse. If a child does something wrong, it's fine to give them a quick spanking on the bottom, or a hit across the hand. For older children, a slap on the back. Spanking should be seen as a last resort, and should indicate that the parent is extremely disappointed in the child's behavior.
They will learn who is the parent and who is the child.....fast.
2007-03-22 00:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that children should be spanked. Yeah they need to be punished sometimes, but there are other ways of doing it. My dad used to spank me, and when he would it wouldn't be pretty. So, I made a promise to myself that I will never spank my children. There are plenty of other ways beside spanking, for younger children, you can put them in time-out or take their toys away, but with older children, take something away, like the computer, or don't let them use the phone, or go out on the weekends. There are plenty of other ways around spanking, you shouldn't do it!
2007-03-22 01:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking children is a good way to discipline them but it is not the only way. It should be a last resort only when you are not able to communicate with them. First you should talk to your child and explain what they did was wrong then if they continue try other methods before you spank them. It is OK to spank your child but should be a last option only when everything else has failed.
2007-03-22 00:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The occasional spank or swat on the butt does NOT cause emotional harm to a child, contrary to the (mostly childless) "experts" who tell us never to spank. Keep in mind, one cannot reason with a small child, but a swat can get the point across. Just make sure it's never done in anger, ie: don't fly off the handle and wallop the kid.
2007-03-22 00:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Chris S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed children should be spanked . All you have to do is look at the results of this generation of kids who can't be touched to know the answer to that.
2007-03-22 01:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spankings Yes Beatings No
Sometimes you have to get their attention!
2007-03-22 11:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Spanking is acceptable. Beating (leaving marks) is not.
HOWEVER, the punishment should fit the misdeed AND the overall temperament of the child. Some children respond better to physical punishment while others respond better to emotional/mental punishment. It is the duty of the parent to know what is appropriate for their child in order to best influence and discipline.
2007-03-22 01:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with those who said it should be used as a last resort. it also depends a lot on the child. i for one do not respond well to spanking. my parents used to "spank" me out of anger which turned out to be more like beating. so wen they actually try to spank me now; i freak out. please, try to communicate with them. if all else fails, a healthy spanking is okay. just make sure ur not fuming in anger, ur children can tell wen ur not sincere. communication is the best solution.
2007-03-22 01:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by teal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Children need borders and rules and children test them sometimes. So there has to be a consequence (punishment) which shows them that these rules have to be followed.
Spanking is an easy, quick and working method for punishment. It hurts and after you can hug your child and show him/her that you still love him/her a lot. So the children see that they are loved, that you care about them and that they have to follow the rules. It's so easy. :-)
2007-03-22 08:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by k.samoth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋