I was daiting this guy for 3 and 1/2 years. He was my first love and I was his. I didn't find out he was a women beater until yesterday after we broke-up. We broke-up 3 years ago. And just yesterday he asked me out again and I said no. Then afterward I found out. He never beat me up or anything but he beat-up other girls. Except me. Why? And why didn't he tell me he was a women beater?
2007-03-21 17:35:10 · 19 answers · asked by Steph1490 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe because he loves you or maybe he was using you. He didn't tell you because he thought you would break up with him.
2007-03-21 17:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Karoshima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. Men with this problem do not realize they have this problem and if they did realize it was a bad thing then they wouldnt do it anymore. Thus answers why he did not tell you. But who told you he was a woman beater. If he was with you for 3 years and never hurt you then maybe the person who told you this was lieing. Or maybe hes changed in the past 3 years and did hurt someone. But inless you have proof of this theres no reason to believe he did hurt this other woman. Some girls say this for pity and attention. Or maybe whoever told you this was jealous? I'd say give this guy a chance if you still have feelings for him. If he ever raises a hand then run and dont look back. I'm not saying jump into a relationship with him. And certaintly dont move in with him till you trust him. But theres no harm in going out for dinner and a movie. You need to make up your own mind and not let others do it for you.
2007-03-22 00:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley Oasis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most men arent going to come out and say i beat up women, its kind of a turn off - maybe you were different to him, you didnt irritate him as bad as the other girls. good for you for not going back to him though - i think you should tell him to get some help - why are you worried about that anyway - it seems silly... he never beat you up - it would be like you telling someone you were very interested in that you're a con artist and you will eventually steal all their money - its not something someone tells people
2007-03-22 00:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. Yeah right, he's going to come out and say to you while you guys are dating "I need to tell you that i'm a women beater". Maybe he didn't hurt you because he liked you or maybe he was afraid of you. Maybe he thought that you could win in a fight and you are tougher then the other people he was dating. All of my boyfriends were afraid of me because my hero is lorana bobbit and they knew that.
Or maybe who ever you heard this from was LYING.
2007-03-22 00:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he was your first love and you were his first love right? Well there you go. He didn't start beating women until after you dated him.
2007-03-22 00:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by eratomo9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the funniest strory i have ever heard (not really) but, R U KIDDING me ... why would he not ask u out again if u gave ur back to him allready he would die just on beating u ... heheh or date u again.
2007-03-22 00:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by arsouzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really think that he would tell anyone that he abuse
women.. just thank god that you got out before he start with
you. dont ask why just glad that he out of your life.and hope
and pray that he get the help and not abuse any other women.
2007-03-22 00:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy actually wanted you to stay with him, he wouldn't tell you that he beats women. If he had, would you have stayed with him?
2007-03-22 00:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by tori.bird 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you actually expected him to tell you he would beat women. yeah right.. he probably beat them since he couldnt have you and that angered him
2007-03-22 00:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but he didn't hit you? hmmm. maybe he has an inferiority complex with women except for his mother and that's why his relationship was good with you, because you subconsciously reminded him of his mother.
2007-03-22 00:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋