The Grandparents have been asking me to let my 13 month old son spend the night, but I do not feel comfortable with letting him stay anywhere for very long, and for sure not all night. I'm a stay at home mom and my son is very clingy to me, would it be good for him to start getting away from me more often and staying with other people a little more often. He is with me 24/7. Did any other mom's have a hard time letting there baby spend the night with the grandparents and how old were they when they first spent the night away from home?
2007-03-21 17:34:31 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, I had a hard time letting my daughter out of my sight. :) She was over two, but not much over two, if my memory serves me, the first time she spent the night without me. And I was there the second she got up, haha. I didn't sleep a wink all that night, and she slept like a log.
I'm not going to pretend it's easy; it's not. I understand your feelings, and have been there. If you're truly too uncomfortable to have him spend the night somewhere else, you have the right to feel however you feel. I would hope that they, being parents, would understand that and be patient. Perhaps spending an afternoon with the grandparents, with naptime at their house, might be a good way to ease into it.
But if you trust the grandparents, and they don't live far, you could give it a try. Rent a good movie you'd been wanting to see, because you know you won't be able to sleep anyway with him gone (just a hunch), and if he's inconsolable at Grandma's, she can call you and you can bring him home. You'll never know until you try it.
Good luck!
Peace & Love.
2007-03-21 17:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just totally my experience.... Our daughter is 3 years, 3 months old. She has NEVER stayed the night ANYWHERE where I was not with her. I am a stay-at-home mom too. The grandparents are starting to drop hints to us about her staying with them but we as the parents do NOT feel comfortable doing so. WE are her parents (we also have a 7 month old now) and NOWHERE did I sign any documents at her birth stating that grandparents had any control. Even at my daughters age I don't want her spending the night anywhere - and definitely not when she was 13 months old!! No way! She has grown into a strong, independent toddler and has no trouble parting from me for things like preschool or to have someone babysit her for a few hours, etc... So me keeping her close to me has NOT caused any issues.
Your baby will spend PLENTY of time apart from you as he gets older (toddler playgroups, preschool, etc.)... If YOU don't feel comfortable letting your son stay the night some place - DON'T feel pressured!!! There is no reason to do something that you don't feel comfortable with just to please someone else.
Best of luck!
2007-03-22 01:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by elliesmomee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I was very comfortable with my children spending the night at MY parents house. My mother took them overnight even as young as newborns so I could catch up on sleep. Priceless. My mother is just like me with the kids, is so good with them, and my kids adored her and never minding staying with them, so it was never an issue. Their other grandparents (my inlaws) are another story. My oldest is 6 and has yet to spend the night there (she's barely babysat him). I'm just not comfortable with it, so I don't see what the point is - its not like it'll give me a chance to go out and relax, because I'll be too stressed about my kids.
It is wonderful if you can get a break and get out.... its good for you and good for your child. And nobody loves your children like grandparents. But if you have any concerns about their caring for your child for whatever reason, hold off until he's a little older then.
2007-03-22 13:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first one nver had a problem with sleeping over his grandparents. We had lived with my in-laws for a couple of months. So staying there was normal for him. My second one aways wanted to stay. Then would cry the second I would leave. She was almost 4 before she spent the night.
Instead of spending the night. Have him stay for a few hours. Maybe even taking a nap or two before building up to a stay overnight. This way he can get comfortable staying there before there is a sleep over.
2007-03-22 04:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been the same way with my son. I am just so afraid that he might need me and I won't be there! We have all spent the night at my parent's a few times, and he has been babysat during the day at their house on multiple occasions. We are planning to leave him with them for a WEEKEND (gasp!!) right before our next baby is born. He will be 18 months by then...I think I should feel comfortable by that time (but we'll see!)
2007-03-22 00:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by western b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first child I felt uncomfortable leaving my child even with my parents and probably didnt let them till she was 12 months and then not for the night. If you feel uncomfortable then dont do it. Maybe try letting them look after him for a few hours while you go shopping or something. It is important to get them used to other people because later on you will have difficulties being able to go out anywhere without him. Just do what feels right to you. hope this helps goodluck
2007-03-22 00:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my daughter it was 8 months old. The only reason for that is because my MIL lived across the street from us and she said we could come over anytime we wanted to check up. I worried of course and she slept like a log. It is all up to the parents really. I would let them just watch your son for a few hours..then try a night and make sure that you can call them or come visit if needed.
2007-03-22 01:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Misty H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must be your first child. First one hard, subsequent ones not. You and the baby's father are both still alive--right? Sounds like you are the clingy one. Not an insult. Has son ever slept at grandparent's house with you present?? Try it out, no harm no foul. worst thing that could happen is you getting up in middle of night to get crying child.
2007-03-22 00:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by nursegrl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i left my daughter with her grands for a week before she was 2
when she game back she was no longer CLINGY
it's definatly a very good idea if you trust them
yes it was difficult but i got over it the first night wen i got a night alone with my hubby and we watched horror flicks and such and went to a movie
I still missed h r very much but i enjoyed the time apert
wouldnt mind it right now as she keeps pulling my hood over my face
2007-03-22 01:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am single...my daughter was 3 months her first sleep over...its good for them...i hope you go to parenting groups though, socalizing is good....esp with you not there. and clingy is good to a point depends if thats how you want it...but will cause problems in the future
2007-03-22 01:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by be_hopeful_4_today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋