Me and my ex dated for almost a year and a half. We broke up a couple of months ago and I cannot stop thinking about him. I broke it off and I know it was a big mistake. I love him more than anything and now he is telling me that it is not the right time for him to have a relationship. I know the saying if you love him set him free and if he comes back you are meant to be. Well, I truely love him and don't want anyone else. However, he says he is so busy with work and school that the timeing is wrong. So how do I make him see the timing is right and we are meant to be together? Do I even have a chance? Or is there no hope and I need to move on to someone who knows they want me? (Main problem, how do I move on if i need to) Like i said I love this man with everything in me but he doesn't consider me in his long term plans never wanted to think that far ahead. What do I do?
2007-03-21 17:30:18 · 8 answers · asked by Fallen from Faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey hun, I just got over a relationship that was a year and a half as well, and it sounds like we were in the same situation. Listen, you broke up with him, because at that time that is what you felt was the right thing to do and now he doesn't want to get back together with you because he feels thats the right thing to do. So you have to respect his decision. I know you love him, but you have to love him enough to give him his space to figure out what he wants. If I were you, I would take a break from not seeing him for a month and if you still feel the need to hang out with him. Then give him a call, find out when he is free and start all over again. You might be a two different times in your life also. In order to get over him, the best tips I can offer is not to sit in your room all day and think about it. Get up and go out with your friends, clean your room, just don't think about it all day because it is very easy to do that. Another thing is time. It is going to take a lot of time to move on. Its hard but be patient. If you are going to think about it, which you will, think about why you even love him and why you guys broke up in the first place. Anyways, hope this helps.
2007-03-21 17:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by soccerchick14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Maddie, It feels like you're harassed and aren't certain what you desire. And you're afraid to make a transfer, fearing it is going to be the improper one. Guess what? There aren't any promises in existence! But what you're doing isn't reasonable to both boy. Even despite the fact that you're no longer kissing your ex boyfriend, you're emotionally dishonest with him. The proper and proper factor to do is to inform your present boyfriend that you're no longer able to be significantly distinct with anybody proper now and holiday it off with him...effectively and lightly. Whether or no longer you get again at the side of your ex is immaterial. You aren't completely happy for your present obstacle...should you have been you might no longer be watching in other places for romance and knowledge. Do the proper factor and don't lead your b/f on any further, you'll harm him extra in the end.
2016-09-05 11:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by pizzaro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time and keep in contact with him, he is most likely afraid of getting hurt. There is always hope, sometimes between hopes, dreams, and faith you have nothing else really. Just wait if you love him truly you won't have much choice in that really. Least that's how it has been for me these past 6 months, never give up on your hopes and dreams, even when it seems they are crashing to the ground and dragging you down with them.
-NmD!
2007-03-21 17:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope, and don't listen to anyone who tells you to move on or just forget about him - you can get him back!
Here's a page with some useful tips (they work for ex boyfriends and girlfriends alike!):
http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-make-up-with-an-ex-lover/
The main thing is not to give up - if you really want him back, you can do it.
Good luck!
SJ
2007-03-21 22:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all...right? Maybe...I would mark this one up to experience. He sounds very serious about his life right now and is being honest with you. Be honest with yourself. Good Luck
2007-03-21 17:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to just give him the space that he need'to
deal with everything that going on. if it meant to be it will
so dont push it. then you mignt not get anything. keep it
simple down the road you can see where this is going. good
luck.
2007-03-21 17:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some time after he notice that he doesn't have that special someone he will get back with you. he will miss you!
2007-03-21 17:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by ~*J@CK!3*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u shouldnt have broken up with him......
and if hes not in future plans then just forget him
2007-03-21 17:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by in despair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋