i love a good steady, even, non rollercoaster relationship... but never find myself in one.
i want a good stable man, with his head on straight. one with an acceptable past, and not alot of baggage. one that is smart and funny, and sweet..
so part two of my question is am i still asleep?????? , because i am thinking no such man exists...
( is anyone still on here, it's 12:30 and you should all be in bed, dreaming, like i wish i was)
ok so if anyone cares to answer. i'm not sleepy, please do...
2007-03-21 17:28:30 · 7 answers · asked by lil' angel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
last girl... yeah. all but, i'm the 'normal' one here...
he's the screwed up one....
and i guess i'm just tired of all of the drama... should have stuck to my guns and just stayed away from the boys.. i know better now..
won't make that mistake again for atleast another day or two.....LOL
guess it's all about priorities.. and i need to not make guys one of them
2007-03-21 18:04:14 · update #1
Why do some relationships seem to thrive on chaos? There is some reward in being in a dramatic couple. Think of all the attention that you draw in public...not to mention the entertainment value as other couples listen to whatever is being argued being able to "hear" another couple vocalize the things that they themselves may not have had a previous opening to talk about ... privately. It is fairly irritating in private settings when the other person does not seem to perceive when they have stepped over the line of argument and crossed-over into hurtful, demeaning derogatory comments..
I do not like abusive relationships. I do not get paid for dramatic scenarios. I prefer supportive, nurturing companions whether they are love interests or merely friends.
2007-03-22 06:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want the stone cold truth? Okay here it is? water seeks it's own level. Your intellect tells you that a stable, calm relationship is what is good for you. But your comfort zone is a apparently chaos. Until you can honest examine yourself and what you are doing to bring chaos into your life, things will never change. And the smart guys who have their lives pulled together are never going to be attracted to a 'crazy' girl who will just exhaust them with her relentless chaos. Believe me there are plenty of great guys out there but they are not going to invest in someone who thrives on chaos and dysfunction. That's why they're so smart.
2007-03-22 01:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by stevieray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chaotic people are sometimes drawn to stable people because they need the stability. It is just a little harder for two really stable and even-keeled people to find each other because neither one is doing anything to get the extra attention that the chaotic ones get by being their crazy selves.
2007-03-22 00:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nicegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are men out there like this. They are hard to find, but sometimes are found in the least likely places. Hang in there and be picky. Trust me, divorce is not fun. I found a nice, kind, loving husband in my second marriage. It is possible, but if you see warning signs(unemployment, bad reputation, alcoholism, drugs, ect...), then move on. Good luck.
2007-03-22 00:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only dysfunctional relationships thrive on chaos.
Yes there are men who have little drama in their lives and meet your requirements...we are out there.
2007-03-22 00:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It keeps everything from being boring!
2007-03-22 00:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We exist.
-NmD!
2007-03-22 00:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋