im 21yrs old and he's 29. I knew him since I was a child and he always treated me as his baby sister. I had a crush on him since i was a teenager . But we didnt had much time to get together coz he went away to the university. ( hes a marian engenner) But suddnely I met him at my brothers engagement and we talked a lot that day. Even on that day he treated me like his sister. thats a month ago. He started sending me text messages from that day and suddnely he told me that he was always loved me since he knew me but he said he thought i was too young for him . & he told me that he was amazed to see his brothers funny looking baby sister has grown up into a angel. He told me that he loved me on last sunday and as for me its like a dream come true. He s my 1st love and im crazy about him. We talk, exchange messages and say we love each other all the time. But he is going ahead with the wedding. I dont know what to do after he gets married &he doesnt either. please help us!
2007-03-21 17:16:55 · 24 answers · asked by ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He is horrible, you don't do that before you get married. Your young and this will be hard, but move on! A man who really loves you will do anything to get you, including deciding not to get married.
2007-03-21 17:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by LDB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to ask yourself why he's going to go ahead with the wedding. If he just re-discovered you, and you're an angel, and he loves you, then he shouldn't be getting married to someone else that he obviously doesn't love as much. You should confront him with that and see what he says.
If he agrees with you and calls off the wedding, then he may be worthwhile.
If he says he's going to get married anyway, he doesn't really love you more than his fiancee.
If he agrees with you and then says he "can't" call off the wedding (presumably because he's a wimp and can't face her) he's playing you. He wants you to feel sorry for him and keep seeing him and still have his wife. That's the worst creep of all.
2007-03-22 11:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, I don't know how much he love's you and you love's him. think if he is doing marry now why not he send u message b4 when he feels to attract you and now when he is doing marry he send u message. Actually what happens likes and unlikes this is our affection of our syndrome. How people like anybody? If he is caring and loving. he care you as you say he care you as little sister. And in your mind it strick that he is very caring about you and you start to loving him. why child loves his parents because they care his kids. and we feel secure if some one care for us. that is deferent we cant think some thing like that other person love affection like that... to our parents because not accepted by the rules. We know it. but if some one do the same we start think it in other way like boy friends and girls friends etc..its a world truth. Nothing think 5 min in alone if your brother care u love you. Y/N. same he is doing. and most of relation make good after u start some time with him. I hope you will judge him I am not saying he does not love you may he love you but don't take initiative. that is nothing control your self and motivate your self in other way. I sure if you will get also other love soon. If you think +tive. and talk to him also forget all things if he can love u too much he can accept you but he loves u both (with whom he is doing marry and you) it means nothing that is only attraction not love. attraction will end after u spend some time with him. that is only (sex)excitement nothing any thing else. So think +tive
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2007-03-22 00:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to him and have him realize that if he loves you and not the other girl then there is not a big problem to ending the wedding before it happends. Its better than you and him continuing a affair and not being truthful to others about what is going on. He is better off with you or without you and if he doesn't break the engagement then you need to let him go and forget about him seriously. and you need to lead your own life after if this marraige of his does go though. good Luck
2007-03-22 01:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks tough..
hmm.. If he really loves, I think he won't go ahead with the wedding and choose u instead.
If he still wants to marry her no matter what, stay away from him.
think how the woman he will be married with is going to feel if she knows about this. U don't want to be some1 who ruin some1 family in the future, do u? And also there might be a probability that he only wants to play around with you. (who knows, right?)
But it's just my opinion. It's up to you in the end.
2007-03-22 00:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by 77741210 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop his wedding, it will only end in a terrible way since it's started out with dishonesty. Tell his fiance` and stop this wedding. The only outcome of him getting married is the unhappiness of you both. Even if you don't end up together you are saving them both from a terrible marriage that is doomed to end in divorce. If you where his fiance`, wouldn't you want to know?
2007-03-22 13:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He' cant have his cake and eat it too!
If he's going through with marrying and committing his life to someone else, you need to cut off ALL contact with him. Besides if he got married and you continued on having an affair with him, it could cause alot of heartache later on. Think how uncomfortable things could get between all the different parties involved.
It's either you OR this other girl. He needs to choose and you have to be strong enough to stand up for yourself and do what's right.
Good Luck.
2007-03-22 00:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you for a mistress, and a wife to go home to. You are second rate in his eyes. I wouldn't settle for that at such a young age. He's a jerk, get someone who is worthy of you. Why would a guy bang his best friends little sister and then marry someone else? That's just sick.
2007-03-22 10:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the whole situation... this is nothing but trouble. He is playing you and the woman he is supposed to love for the rest of his life.. He doesn't love either of you only HIMSELF!!! You are too young to stress yourself out over something like this. Find someone who really loves you and wouldn't sleep with you and another girl at the same time and then marry her but still telling you he loves you. There our good men out there. Learn the difference between good love and bad love.
2007-03-22 10:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He justs wants to do you. I don't see why else he would be going on with his wedding to this other woman...you're young and consequently beautiful, you were probably always the "forbidden fruit" when he was growing up around your brother. Ignore him, honey, there are plenty of hot, available guys your age. You can find someone waaay better. And NOT getting married.
2007-03-22 00:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Leah~Ariana is due Oct. 09~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋