I have a good friend (yes, it's my friend and not me) who admits that his frequent masturbation accompanied by pornography is actually harming his relationship with his girlfriend. How so? Well simply by desensitizing him.
Almost every time they are physically intimate, he cannot finish as his mind wanders to other things or little pains in his muscles or thoughts of the pornographic actresses he say etc... Basically he is having trouble staying turned on by his girlfriend, who he says is very attractive, both physically and mentally.
He blames this on his pornography addiction. He has a lot of time to himself on certain days and says that when he is alone he feels the need to view pornography. There was even a point not too long ago where he was with his family without internet access or his girlfriend for a month, and almost every time masturbated (which was frequently) he thought not of his girlfriend, but of the models and their sex acts that were burned into his brain.
2007-03-21 17:16:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyways, I agree with him that this is a problem. I suggested putting blockers on pornographic websites. Any other suggestions?
Please no joke or stupid answers. This is really affecting him.
2007-03-21 17:17:39 · update #1
He needs to seek professional counselling. By what you describe, he is using porn as some sort of escape from the real world. It is not likely he would be able to go cold turkey immediately on his own.
He could try by giving his computer to someone else to hold for awhile. He would then have to find someone else to let him use their PC (and how many people want another person surfing porn). If he goes to a public venue (library, university, etc.) there are often rules about not viewing porn. Plus, he wouldn't be able to masturbate.
2007-03-22 07:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude that is funny... I kind of had the same problem but I was still intimate with my g/f and had no problem with that most of the times... Every thing changed when I broke up with my ex and meet with this girl after a long time that I had a crush on her. Since than all I do is think about her so even when I have free time I don't care about going to websites or downloading p... What your friend has to do is to do less websites and more with his girl cus every time he gives him self a hand/j he will feel released and dont care about his girl..
2007-03-29 14:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by ermal_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation in a way is harmful. Its very hard to quit. He can try seek help from doctor on medication to reduce the desire. If his religion permits and any of his friends can read chinese, here is a buddhism website/forum on how the others quit masturbating, pornography stuffs and the effects. http://www.jiexieyin.org Its not just will power to quit, there 's some methods.. Feel free to reply, if like to know more, I can try to help.
2007-03-27 12:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by c G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will power. He has to look at the big picture, whack off or save his relationship, what means more. Look at it that way. Also, get some hobbies ..maybe something that takes him outside lol
2007-03-29 17:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Zed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real alternative to pornography is real sex.
2007-03-29 09:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by karan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋