im still hurting?

Question

my ex boyfreind broke up with after 2 years. he used to tell me he loved me and that he cared and i was so in love. i still am. and i dont know what to do about it. i feel like dying. he has this adorable girlfriend now and they make an adorable couple- and its honestly killing me. i want to die. i miss him so much, and i cry every night. everytime i go on his profile, i cry. her picture is on it saying "shes cute. and all mine". and on her profile, it says "my baby! i love him!"

that kills me. im still in love with him. what do i do?

email me at [e-mail] if you think you could really help. also, please dont tell me to go fin dsomeone else. right now, im in too much pain. i dont keven know if i could love again...

Answer 1

Wow, I dont think you really have a choice.

Answer 2

Ahhh, I know how you feel. I was just dumped too, after 6 years. All I can say is, it will hurt for a while, and seeing them will make you want to punch his new girlfriend in the face!! But, it will get better. I've been there, I know, but I also know that you won't believe me yet. I wouldn't have believed me 3 weeks ago.

The best thing you can do, is let yourself feel hurt. Cry, be angry, talk to people that care, rant and rave, let it all out. I curled up on the couch and I was miserable for quite a while. Take however long you need.

Now, I know you won't believe me now, but soon you'll feel better. It's a little bit at first, you'll have a few moments where things feel normal.. and then you'll see his profile. Or see them at school being idiots together. And you'll feel like **** again. Hang in there!

As the days go by, more and more moments will be happy, and less will feel like ****. And that's how it goes. Eventually almost all your moments will be normal or happy. You just have to ride this pain out. It will get better, I promise. You will read your post here in a month and not even recognize yourself.

Answer 3

Oh. I've been there. ha it sounds so familiar. Just know that you will get better even though it doesn't feel like it now. If this guy did that to you do you really think he deserved you? I mean your probably a great girl and capable of really loving someone and you know what? when relationships come to an end like this it's hard for you to deal with it because you obviously weren't on the same page as your partner was and it just leaves you with your feelings crushed and abandoned. You will love again, i promise you that. For now, avoid looking at pictures of them. Try taking your mind off this by doing things you love with your friends. Just think of this as an experience. We all go through it at least once. If you can be strong you can get through this. It's gonna hurt for a while, but let time do the rest. p.s now you can look at other guys without feeling guilty haha and also take up an active sport or something else to release the anger

Answer 4

Since you are still hurting, it, of course would be unwise to go looking for a new love. If you're comfortable with dating again, you should go out with your girlfriends, have a fun night life and perhaps go to spas. Swim in the ocean. Meet new people. Though with the state your in perhaps it isn't a good idea to be involved with someone in a relationship. Find new friends, maybe.

But what you really need is to look for, to live - A New Life.

Perhaps you could do more charity work, or, do something intense - like sports or performing arts. Do something different - try out new food. Go sky diving. Or start a new business. Something wherein you can channel your energies because this is obviously eating you up. You need to get out of this dark well. But don't forget to take care of yourself the right way.

Now seems to be the time to let yourself heal. We heal through tears, time, ceremonies. Letting it sink in is part of the way of letting go and healing. It's good that you're acknowledging the hurt. It's part of the value you're giving to the relationship you have. It's good to cry it out, sing it out. Let your friends and family know and they most probably would be able to help. The last time something devastating as this happened to me, the first moments of consciousness would hit me and I wake up only to find myself crying. And I let myself cry.

You'll have to let yourself cry, too. Let the hurt wash over, ebb. Like high tide. Eventually the sun'll come up again and the tide of hurt would simply go away but you're in the dark in the night. waiting for morning is really a difficult thing to do but you'll definitely live through it. just you wait - you'll be more beautiful when you come out of this. It'll make you stronger. But at the moment, let hurt be hurt. And time will simply roll by and you'll be all right.

(How long has it been since you two broke up and how quickly did he find this new girl?)

But don't spend the whole season just crying. It isn't very healthy. What's your day like? Are you in any organisation in school/work/community. What are your interests. What is your music life/ reading life/ movie life. You need to live things up a little higher. Prepare yourself to write a fresh chapter. Not necessarily move on - you won't be able to help it much if you love the person - but don't forget to love yourself, too.

If you think it would help giving me a more detailed story on this, reach me: [e-mail]

Answer 5

Girl, you have got to get on with your life. Listen, this "Boy" will end up treating this girl just the way that he treated you. Why in the world would you want to hang on to some jerk who has treated you in such a way.
If you are self-confident and have a good, loving heart, there will be someone special right down the road for you. But this guy is not right for you. If he was, he would still be with you. Right?
It's time to move on. If you had a diseased part in your body, what would the doctors do? They would cut it out. Stop going to his profile. Find someone else to fill that hole in your heart. But this time, be slow in choosing the RIGHT man for you.

Answer 6

Well my advice to you is to get stronger. Take this experience to make yourself a stronger person. I bet you haven't gone out and had fun with your friends b/c you want to stay at home, well darlin' if you wanna get your life back on hold you have to put the feelings you have for him on hold. I'm not saying to forget him or anything, but I am saying to understand that things happen for a reason and he is not worth making you sick from crying. i have been in situations been in situations like this before and i felt the same way...i wanted to die. But that's not gonna solve anything, he's still gonna be with that other girl. The only thing hurting here is you and i say you have hurted enough. Get out of your house for a couple of days and explore life with friends and family. Try not to mention him and before you know it you will be a better person for the future. hopefully this helps you!!!

Answer 7

That was what i thought too when that happen but one thing you have to know is that people move on what happen yesterday have happen and the same will not happen tomorrow, I am not going to tell you to move on or get another gut because i know how it feels, I know the feeling and i can not also say that time heals because you still love him after 2 years. All I'm going to tell you is just take thing one at a time, you will get there.

Answer 8

this is going to sound harsh but in 6 months you look back and agree..... you will get over him very soon, keep yourself busy, hang out with friends, FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT anything to keep your mind off of him evidently he is moving on, hon, even if you cant, act like you have, they hate that just as much as us trust me 2 years means something it wasn't a waste of time if you want him that bad MOVE ON that will make him think about what he lost and the more he thinks about it the more hell think about you, feelings will kick in and if its meant to be it will be if not you will find someone else that loves you the same way maybe he cant handle that your love either way you'll feel better about the situation

Answer 9

I would like you to know that he has moved on, and that you still love him and are hurt is a very normal thing to go through, you really need to concentrate on you and your friends.
You are going to hurt, for how long no one knows. Try not to go to his profile and start chatting with other people...to make new friends. Get rid of reminders of him and just try and get thru each day the best you can....

good luck.

Answer 10

It's okay to feel this way
the best thing for you to do is focus on yourself and mending your broken heart.
visiting there sites is probably not going to help you but if you need to cry do it if you need to take a walk to think about things go ahead but try not to do things that will hurt you even more(like looking at his profile). I hope you start feeling better and all you have to remember is its okay to feel like this you are human and you will hurt but its NOT okay to pitty yourself life does go on (as hard as it may seem to think about) and this feeling will get better so hang in there.

Answer 11

Seriously, find someone else. Take 6 months to heal.

Don't obsess over him and her, it will hurt too much. Just stop. Don't visit their pages, whatever.

And delete your email from your additional info.

Some players who would like to mac on some emotionally vulnerable girl who just got dumped will be using it to chat you up, and use you. Mark my words.

Good luck. Maybe see someone for depression.