Or have you ever gotten involved with a married man before? I'm a situation now that a married man is interested in me and he tells me that things aren't working out with him and his wife, and he's having second thoughts about being married to her. But he's not divorced yet, and I'm thinking I'm the reason that's making it easier for him to decide. We haven't done anything yet, but he wants to go out saturday night. I want to discuss things with him then, but should I tell him to call me when he's divorced or what? any experience or knowledge with this would be helpful!
2007-03-21 16:52:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!
2007-03-21 17:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did get in a relationship with my best friend, who was going through a divorce. That's the WORST possible time to ever get involved with someone. You go through some intense emotions, and can do irrational things.
In my case, he thought everything was all done, then his wife said she would try counseling. So he went back to try, so he could say that yes, he tried everything. And we screwed up what could have been a wonderful relationship between the two of us, if only we had waited. I was young though, and he was going through a crazy, emotional divorce.
My STRONG advice is, be his friend through this, and his friend ONLY. If you value yourself, and this man, you will have enough patience to wait until he is divorced and everything is over. If he really loves you, you owe it to yourselves to give a relationship the best chance you have. Otherwise, it may end up being just a fling.
Besides, you don't want a man who is ok in a situation until something better comes along. There's ALWAYS someone out there better then you, and what if she comes along when you're married to him?
He needs to take one thing at a time, end something if it's bad, and THEN move on. Be a supportive friend, but nothing more until his marriage is OVER!
2007-03-21 17:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by FlyingNutSquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl, dont get involved. Its a lose lose situation. I know from experience. I fell for the same story. Its a lie.
Tell him to call after he is divorced and dont endulge in anything with him. If he is actually considering divorce, then he needs to do it for the right reasons, not because u were there as a back up.
And why would u want to have anything to do with a man who wants to cheat on his wife? It took me a long time to realize that even if he did leave her and was with me, I wouldnt be able to trust him. He would probably cheat on me too. So, dont do it.
Plus, Karma came back and bit me square in the butt. I payed for my mistake a hundred times over. Its truly not worth it.
Good luck to u hun.
2007-03-21 17:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh please! A blind person can see where this is going!
Question: Should you date a married man?
Answer: Duh how much do you like pain?
Question: Honest things aren't working out between him and his wife he said so. Should I believe him.
Answer: Actually if he will lie to his wife telling you a fib is a piece of cake.
Question: Do we think he is leaning toward divorce because of you?
Answer: Nope but we think he would like you to believe that.
Question: We have not done anything yet (?) but he wants to go out Saturday night. You think you would like to discuss things with him at that time.
Answer: Yeah right!
Question: Should I tell him to call me when he's divorced?
Answer: Why? Would you like to be the next woman he cheats on?
2007-03-21 17:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All married ppl who want to have extra marital affairs have the same sob story about how they are not happy and are wishing to leave their partner....most of them never leave their wives/husbands, they just tell you that so you keep messing with them and by the time you realize the affair isint leading to much it will be yrs down the road and you will be in too deep. Besides put urself in the wife's shoes, would you want someone sleeping with your husband knowing very well they are married...I think you know the right thing to do in this situation....
2007-03-21 17:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by bebekaychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even remotely interested in him WAIT until he is divorced. Men RARELY leave their wives for their mistresses. And if she finds out about it and leaves him, chances are he'll blame you for his marraige failing.
I started dating a man who was living with a long term girlfriend. That was so very hard on me, because anytime some thing even remotely goes wrong they will tell you "I'm already in a relationship" and it will only break your heart
long story short: stay away from the taken guys, even if they say the are unhappy where they are.
2007-03-21 16:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by buddys_angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually married guys are just looking for sex and will tell you anything they think to get into your pants and then they are done with you they do leave their wives the just play with your heart cause things aren't right at home something is missing and by having an affair they think it will get better but usually the guilt gets to then and they never want anything to do with you after that sorry just telling from what some of my married friends have done good luck
2007-03-21 17:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by yo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please don't get involved with a married man. and don't let him make you feel that you are the cause or reason for anything to do with his marriage. stay as far away from it/him as possible! chances are he will have a fling with you and you will really fall for him and start hoping for a divorce and he will simply not leave his wife. his relationship with his wife is far more serious and complicated than whatever relationship he has with you, and a marriage is something which binds people together. you have no business getting involved with a man who already has a wife. have respect for her. when you get married would you like some woman to come sleep with your husband, even if he is the one asking her to? NO!! you would feel like rubbish! so please have a heart and don't cause this pain to another woman like yourself! what goes around comes around! get a single man. this man has no respect for his current wife, himself or you, to be considering getting into thisnasty situation with you. please consider yourself warned!! tell him you are sorry and you refuse to stoop that low!
2007-03-21 17:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by shopsummor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if you were the woman he was married to? You probably wouldn't be down with your husband havin' any kind of special interaction with another female...there are all kinds of problems and negative dynamics if you get involved with this man, tell him to take a long walk off a short plank.
2007-03-21 16:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so playing you, and if he is comtemplating divorce, which I seriously doubt, yes it is more than likely because of you. Stay away from married men, there are more than enough single men out there, if you really want to know what to do, you should tell his wife, wouldnt you want to know? Put yourself in her shoes.
2007-03-21 17:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!! Run, don't walk away from this mess!! If he's still married, why would you want to be with a cheater? And if he would leave his wife for you, who says he wouldn't do the same thing to you? Once a cheater, always a cheater!!
2007-03-21 16:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋