i went out with this guy for 2 years. and he dumped me. now he has this adorable girlfriend. they make a cute couple.. and its killing me. i still cry every night because of it. he said such cute things to me and now its on her. shes so cute. but i cant get over him. i still love him. what do i do?
2007-03-21 16:47:32 · 13 answers · asked by hollisterCali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u r so nice.. well best way is by findin a new love but because u cant just that by order i sugest u to try not to think about it anymore and focus on yourself i mean make yourself better in any possible way: fitness,work,studies,social etc. also try to achieve a difficult goal that u want for example gather money to buy a car or make perfect abs! time will heal u soon.. good luck!!
2007-03-21 16:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by manosn1b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you must accept the facts. He's not with you any more (it sucks and it hurts but you have to accept it). He's with a cute new girlfriend (again- sucky! but it's real). Once you accept the facts, a hard pill to swallow, you will feel better.
Now onto what's going to really make a good difference! Start feeling better about yourself. Think of all the things you don't like about yourself and change them. Make yourself a better person. Do you wish you had a better figure? More muscle definition? Do you wish you were more into sports or art? Do you want a different hair style?
When you start to like yourself more and feel better about yourself then it will be much easier for you to move on.
Here's another fact you need to accept: The chances of your ex being with this girl for the rest of his life are very low. At some point, she is going to see him with another girl too.
Forget how cute some other girl is- become awesome and feel good about yourself.
2007-03-21 23:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but the only thing that you can do is start getting on with your life, get over it, and let it go. I'm not saying this will be easy(and it wont be), but as soon as you start this process the better off you will begin to feel. You have to start with any and everything that will bring on any thoughs of this guy. Old letters, emails, pictures, clothing etc., even all of those memories of the good times that the 2 of you shared together...erase it from your memory because after all, all it is is just a memory. If there are places that he may go to and frequent quite often and its not really necessary that you go there, then dont go(out of site, out of mind).
Start finding different things to do with your new spare time...reading, shopping(or window shop), excersize, hang out with friends&family...hell hang out at starbucks with your laptop you just might meet yourself someone nice there :)
The longer you keep hanging on, the longer your gonna keep crying yourself to sleep every nite. If you have more tears to let out because you cant help it then let it all out. After you have done all that you need to get yourself and you mind prepared for your new single life.
Its a day by day process and soon you'll just see this guy will no longer matter to you as much as he once did.
Good luck...you can do it!
P.s. - Ingore the "I was just calling to see how you were doing" phone calls from him....send 'em straight to voice mail!
2007-03-22 00:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl remember one thing there are millions of guys around u and u just gotta start talking to allot of guys that are interesting to u and that would maybe keep your ex off your mind i know its hard but still i know u might know another guy who has a better personalty then him i mean every guy says cute things to girls so believe me u will find someone Way better then him and u might make him jealous cause what ever goes round comes back around
2007-03-22 00:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by lilmed4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no one is perfect, there must me something wrong with his new girl?
I know that sound a bit wrong but focusing on how cute she is won't improve your self esteem any. .
Two years is a long time to be with someone, I can understand how devastated you must be. The best thing to do is go out and do lots of activities! be active and keep your mind occupied....
Do all the things you have been wanting to do, rebel a little, I don't know if you're old enough but go out with friends for drinks meet NEW people find someone who makes you laugh and hang out with them.....
Try to be as social as possible and have as little contact with your x as possible, it helped me to separate myself from "him".....
2007-03-21 23:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel better with time, I assure you, I have been in the same situation. In the meantime, distract yourself with a new constructive hobby. Learn to knit or write a short story or something. That will help take your mind off it.
2007-03-21 23:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by ☭ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your going threw this, but he has made his choice and there is nothing you can do to change anything. It's time to let go, and move on. Somewhere out there, there is someone who deserves you. Just keep your eyes and heart open............. Good Luck
2007-03-21 23:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget this person, and move on with life. no point thinking. it'll hurt u more. i know it is not easy. give urself more time to get over it. ask some friends out, watch a movie with them.. spend time with your loves ones..
2007-03-21 23:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by croWnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone above tells you to get another boyfriend i agree, before you do that stop listening to music that reminds you at that guy, throw all the things that remind you of him, and go out with your girlfriends, and if you cant just do something that takes your mind out of it, why torture yourself with all these drama, who do you love more him or you!!!!!!
2007-03-21 23:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgretchem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a hot guy to steal his girlfriend away. That should make you feel better.
2007-03-21 23:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋