there has always been a little "tension"
we've had crushes on eachother in the past
i'm a little shy about this stuff... not sure what to do
2007-03-21 16:32:18 · 15 answers · asked by emmers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you can talk to this guy about anything, so why not ask him out on a date? He'll say, "a date-date?" and you say very seriously, Yes, "a date-date". Good luck from there!
2007-03-21 16:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! i totally know how you're feelings...i'm living it right now! LOL here's the thing: me and my best friend have been close for 3 years. We've always gotten along really well - we talk to each other about everything and we have a lot of fun - little innocent flirting here and there but it's all good :)Our mutual friends have always told me that he's always "admired" me - how he sees me differently than other girls but i've never really believed it. Fast forward to NOW - just recently, i've fallen for him soo deep. It's like the guy i've always been dreaming about...was the guy next to me that whole time - him. Once you've found what you're looking for, no one else matters, you know? It turns out, he DID like me this whole time yet i didn't have a clue. Funny, huh? We had a long serious talk about what was going to happen to us and we decided not to have a relationship right now...we didn't wanna rush it - esp. right now in our lives where we are just really stressful - we're going through this phase where we wanna finish school, deal with work, financial problems, etc...he believed that if ever had a chance to go out, it would be a the right time....he said he's always wanted something "long lasting, worth it, real, and serious..."and he's a sincere guy. We just don't wanna rush - you know what they say, "if it ain't broke, then don't try to fix it..." Right now, we're just best friends again - even though it's hard, it's one of the best decisions we've ever made. It would kill me to risk all of that out there for selfish desires - what people don't realize is that you don't just go out with your best friend, if you do, you really have to be careful and do it RIGHT...no one really understands how precious and fragile it is...
Anyway - my story (hopefully) is just good insight and inspiration for you....as for your situation, i think you know what's at risk. Just because love is in the game now, you still have to maintain that good friendship and be true to him - be honest and tell him how you feel - you can't bottle up these feelings for a while - they kinda do have an expiration date LOL be a good friend and be true to him and i'm sure he'll understand. If things don't work out (him not feeling the same way), then he'll either still be here for you (trust me - if he really cares, he'll be tehre always) or he won't - which will prove howm uch of a friend he really is....BUT if he feels the same way, then :) good! YOu never know....he could be feeling the same way you are feeling :)
sorry i talk too much - hope i helped! GOOD LUCK! and let us know what happened!!
2007-03-21 17:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are friends so just let him know how you feel. It is a lil easier said than done but for the same reason that it can be difficult, it can be easy. Be sure this is what you wanna do, I have a friend who I got involved with a couple of years ago, we have known each other since I was about five or six years old! I don't think I regretted the experience but it was difficult.
2007-03-21 16:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold hands or just kiss him, that way you don't have to do any awkward talking. If you had crushes on each other in the past I'm sure he wouldn't mind.
2007-03-21 16:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off as a secret admirer, get into the personality and then meet up for the surprise. Show him the other side of you, kinda like "You've got mail?"
2007-03-21 16:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by socialfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well I was in the same situation with my guy friend. I didn't work out, but we are still friends. Send her a text asking her out. If she says that she dosen't like you like that say it wasne't meant for her. Childish I know, but at least you will still be friends.
2007-03-21 16:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be also that he has written you off for that sort of relationship in his mind and has moved on to others. It might be hard for him to shift gears now(especially if he see you as a sister like figure.
2007-03-21 16:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in a one on one situation with him, have a few beers, then when there's an awkward silence, kiss him... He'll either kiss you back (probably) or if not you can blame it on the beer after...
2007-03-21 16:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Miss V. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need to tell up front that u have feelings for him! if u guys have been friends he won't get in unless u tell him! just take him out to dinner and tell him! but sometimes if u date ur friends u end up hating them in the end!
2007-03-21 16:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a couple of drinks, then just ask "Would you ever date a girl like me" if he says yes, then you have a green light. If he says no, then you havea red light.
2007-03-21 16:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by StevieMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋