A heartfelt apology for a minor wrongdoing (being moody) and no reply. Is it best to not apologize at all?
2007-03-21 16:29:52 · 37 answers · asked by caffeinatedmom2 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It means that either they arnt a very forgiving person and hold grudges, or that maybe even though it was a minor wrongdoing in your eyes, it wasnt to them. You should apologize anyway but if they won't accept there is nothing you can do but move on from it. Youre the better person for at least trying.
2007-03-21 16:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Amber T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may or may not mean anything. If you have offered such an apology, I think you've done what you need to do. You can't affect how the other person will accept your apology. A few weeks ago, I sincerely apologized to another person for something that I sort of did. (He behaved much worse than I did, but I could have behaved a bit better.) He all but ignored me. So I just had to say that I did what I could, and let God deal with it.
A couple days later, he gave me a profuse apology for his behavior. It won't always work out like that, but you can only do what you can do. As kids say, "You may be the boss of you, but you're not the boss of him."
2007-03-22 02:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gary B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you feel you have done something that you felt you needed to apologize, it was the right thing to do.
If the other person is ignoring your apology, maybe they are thinking it over. It is their problem and maybe they are moody too.
How did you apologize? Over the Internet? Phone message? If you did either of those, it is possible they haven't gotten the message yet. It could be possible that this person likes to hold grudges and wants you to stew another day.
Either way, you have apologized, and it is up to that person to accept it or not. If that person cannot accept it, it is that persons problem and you can't let yourself have a lot of anxiety over it. You have done all you can do. You shouldn't have to apologize over and over either. Your sincere apology was enough. If you see this person again, you can do it in person just to make sure they got it and then leave it at that. Smile and be polite if they do not want to be friends, you can just be polite to them.
Best wishes to you and this other person.
2007-03-21 16:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cultured people do apologize for disdemeanors. Uneducated, ignorant and uncultrured people do not know.
But an apology asked with no reply does not follow not acceptance but rather overcome with emotions obscurring the response of acceptance. Often times actions of a person is always accompanied by an implied or express answer of accepting apologies. MOST important, you know how to HUMBLE YOURSELF by asking an apology.
2007-03-21 16:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by pedro dagandagan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may mean that the person is either still upset about the situation or that it wasn't that big of a deal. In either way, its best if you ask the person for the feelings about the situation. It's the only way you'll be really sure of what the person feels.And no, although its a lot easier to forget about apologizing altogether, it doesn't make it right. Its always best to apologize, it means you realize your mistake and that you respect the other person.
2007-03-21 16:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll agree with the last 2 I saw. Maybe they feel your apology isn't so sincere, or is more of a trap than genuwine. They could be seeing your 'minor' (being moody)-ness as you actually trying to take advantage of them and the relationship or their nature (all that assuming you've put yourself in a position to apologize for the same mess before). Or maybe they are just being a mule (stubborn-@ss). Anyway, something's gotta give.
2007-03-21 16:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Snap J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that the person who's feelings you hurt by being moody is overly sensitive. Just give him/her some time. I think you did the right thing by apologizing. If that doesn't work. Forget about it and move on.
2007-03-25 16:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are wrong you should go out on a limb and apologize. Life situations do not always end w/ a happy/ resolved situation. But at least you know that you did the right thing by apologizing and admitting that you were wrong.
2007-03-25 11:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sharisse F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONE sincere, heartfelt apology is enough... especially for just not having a good day (being moody). Jeeeez, it's not like you killed anyone! Don't beg them. Just give it a few days ... if they're still holding a grudge, than let it go. The ball will be in their court. They'll come to their senses...
2007-03-21 16:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Engage Me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps they don't know that you are to accept an apology verbally, I know plenty of people who didn't know that. It is never best to not apologize, if you gave a heartfelt apology you thought about it and thought the other person deserved that apology. YOU can only be responsible for YOUR actions...sounds like you're very decent...spread the word!
2007-03-21 16:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy Girl 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋