what do we(i) do?(please see details!) i really need your help!?

Question

ok, long story short, i liked this guy for a while, so did he, we go way back, so we talked for the school year so far, not likeall the time, but yea, and then, this month (march) things really started to happen between us, we hung out two times and then after that we started to go out! it happened too fast, we made outish/kissed the first time we hung out, and he made that move, then he really liked me, bugged to hang out constantly, and we were making out b4 we went out, and like he stopped everyhting we were doing, and looked at me and said " i think i love you" and i mean u dont say strong words and stop everyhting in that kind of moment, u kno? so then, we went out for a week, and everything wsa going good, until this past weekend, he started to gradually act weird and back off ish around me, so i asked him why and he said that he didnt know how he felt, because we moved too fast, i had felt the same way, but we just like eachother but not enough to go out,

so we were so confused monday, because we were this far (pretty far) and we didnt know what to do, so now we decided to be extremly close friends , but he doesnt seem to be helping this situation as much as i am, and this whole time through everyhting we've gone through we have felt the same way about everything. so i sort of know what he feels, and right now, i feel so miserable, i like him but i dont know what to do! and niether does he! its quiet between us now, i mean like i try to talk and make converations and he doesnt help them so much, and i know that he has to have feeling fo me, because we did so much already, and things he said and did, it could have just been for using me kind of reasons, plus, he isent like that, i know he isent. but what do i do, what do i think, i cry so much now, and i want tomorow to be bette, ireally am miserable over this whole thing, i do like him, but i dont know how i can be anything to think that we might never have nething! please, help me....

and i dont wanna be annoyingg....ahhhh

Answer 1

Okay...did you guys have sex or do any sexual act? If so, this is probably why he is acting strange. It sounds like you two are very young. I am not saying this is true in your case because I don't know every detail, but boys don't know what love is when they are young. Most of the time boys only think with one thing...and it is not there head or there heart...
Sometimes boys can get feelings of sexual stimulation confused for love, or they say what you want to hear to get what they can get from you. It could be that he realizes he moved to fast and can't handle the pressure of a relationship. Most young boys don't know how to do this.
Just remember that you as a lady will feel emotionally conected as with a boy, he is more apt to feel physically conected. Just remember most likely the boy you date when you are young will not stay with you. That is just the way it is. For what ever reason, they just don't. Girls are more likely to have feelings for a long period of time and be hurt for longer as well. Just guard your heart and make the right choices. Don't let anyone use you in anyway. Don't confuse being physical with like and love.

Answer 2

I say you all still date but take it slower and let the feelings come. You cant "make" yourself love someone in just a couple of weeks. Yeah, there is that love at first sight stuff but if you move to fast you dont allow yourselves to enjoy the getting to know each other stages and everything else. Just take it slower and maybe talk about it.

Answer 3

Sweetheart i hate to sound mean but a guy will say and do anything so he can have sex. It could be that he used you and now your a bore to him and he's trying to back out of the relationship with out hurting you. Orrr he could be telling the truth and you guys could start anew and pretend that you are going on your first date no kissing, no making out

Answer 4

Hmm...I think maybe you both need to chill a bit. Take things a little slower and maybe things will work out.

Answer 5

if you think you ruined any chance with him or your friendship tell him. say you want to stay friends or maybe start over.