Is being a parent lonely?

Question

its not me thats lonely!!! am a very happy person!, it's my girlfriend going on and on about it!!! and wanted to do a poll.

Answer 1

I think I know what you are getting at here...

First, being a parent is fantastic because your children are always around and they are SO cute, and SO funny and so full of life. Some days my son makes me laugh harder then I ever laughed before I was a mom :) And when they toddle over and spontaneously kiss you on the cheek, it is the most pure love you will ever know.

Now...do I get lonely. Sometimes. Sometimes after my son is in bed and my husband is still at work, I miss the free time I used to have with my girlfriends. I feel lonely when I am talking to one of my childless friends on the phone and find out a group of them all went out dancing the night before. I DO get lonely for some good quality girlfriend time.

But on the whole, parenthood is not lonely at all! (shoot I can't even go the the bathroom un-interrupted!)

Answer 2

It depends on you. I think being a single parent would be lonely, so hopefully you will have a loving spouse to share parenting with. But even if your spouse works a lot and leaves you alone with the kids, you can join play groups and meet other parents---get involved in your kids' schools and other activities---go to story time & events at your local library. If you feel lonely, go out with your kids and meet people. It's good for your kids too, instead of staying home watching tv and feeling sorry for yourself. There are tons of things to do with kids where you will meet other parents.

Answer 3

I don't really see how being a parent can be lonely...

Well, let's see... When you first have a baby it changes your life completely. You don't go out and party - for a long while - and you don't have as much time to spend with your friends. But believe me, becoming a parent for the first time is really an overpowering, beautiful feeling. As far as I'm concerned it's the best thing that ever happened to me (and my life was not empty or uneventful beforehand).

So my answer is also NO. As a parent I really don't feel lonely.

Answer 4

Not really. But you might start to feel a little lonely with only a baby around. I'm a stay at home mom and sometimes I feel a little lonely before my husband gets home. Sometimes its nice to get out and have an adult conversation with someone. I'm speaking baby language all day! I was less lonely when I was working but my husband has a job that enables me to stay home. I chose to stay home so I could be there for my daughter all the time. Yeah its lonely sometimes but I dont regret my decision to stay home at all.

Answer 5

It depends on how old they are. I have a 17 month old and a 6 month old and my husband is in the Army. So it does get kind of lonely here. I can talk to my kids all I want but I never get an answer out of them. They are so much fun to be with and around though. They are always starting new things:)

Answer 6

you may feel lonely as a parent but then you may feel lonely not being a parent. its not being a parent that makes you lonely.
if u feel lonely in any circumstance theres always something you can do.. for a start find people with similar interests, if you were a parent, finding other parents would be good.
Its pretty easy just look up about groups and stuff in your area.

Answer 7

No Never i have two boys and i am never lonely, i never have a min of time to be lonely. but i wouldnt change it for anything in the world, being a parent is the best thing in the world.....

Answer 8

Yeah, it definitely can be. I mean, of course, it's great to have kids...blah, blah, blah. But any mother that stays home all day with an infant for weeks on end and doesn't admit to needing some adult conversation from time to time is probably an uptight republican who closes her eyes when her husband comes home at two in the morning with lipstick on his collar. Of course, being a parent is great and rewarding, but it can be lonely at times.

Answer 9

Sounds like you're lonely. If you're lonely already, having a young child will probably not help anything.

But loneliness can always be overcome. Going to church is a good place to start.

Answer 10

Lol, Sorry had to laugh a little. Your never alone with kids. As far as lonely for adult interaction. That can happen. Its about making time for yourself to keep your sanity by going out with friends and your significant other sometimes without the kids. Also, seeking out other moms with children their ages can become a playdate for you both.