Saving yourself for marriage?

Question

Is saving yourself for (who might be) the one really worth it?

I didn't take that path so it actually seems a bit absurd. I'm curious about what the other side of the coin thinks.

Question was asked outta respect so show some.

Answer 1

well i think it's very complicated in this day and age to save yourself for marriage.

once our hormones kick in around 13 you pretty much wanna sleep with every hot guy/girl you see, and it can be almost impossible to save yourself for the right person.

on the other hand if you wait how do you really know what it is like to live with the other person, on a day to day basis. for instance i had some relatives who were very 'religous' and got married before having sex with the other person. in both occasions it turned out badly. one couple is divorced , the other in court. it seems you cannot really know who you are getting involved with unless and until you live with the person for some time, i'm talking about a year at least. and if you live with a person that long and you have feelings for the person, obviously, you might not be able to control yourselves.

the bible teaches that we should not have premarital sex and that's that. it's very practical advice, and it saves on quite a bit of heartache, abortions,veneral diseases. but nowadays you can get all those things even if you are married!!

i was a virgin when i met my current husband, but we didn't wait until we got married to make love to each other. in fact i got pregnant and then we got married. i regret that, but anyway, it all worked out pretty well. he is an excellent man, better now than he was when i first met him.

so to answer your question, i think that whatever you do, you first need to be truly sure that whoever you are waiting for is going to be worth it. and the only way to know that is to ask the Father above to send you guidance. I know you might not share the same beliefs as i do, but in my opinion you can never know what you are getting into when it comes to marriage.someone might love you today and completely grow out of you in ten years down the road.

i think it would be a beautiful thing if people started to wait before having sex and seek guidance before chosing their partners. but then again maybe some people might feel that they 'missed out' on something if they went this way. but what is it really that they missed out on? relationships that didn't work? STDs?

i guess it is a unique experience for everyone. personally i am glad i prayed about my decision before i chose to my mate. i wasn't sure he would choose me in return at the time i gave myself to him. but look at the power of God. He made it all right, and i knew he would the moment He gave me his blessing on our relationship. i know i should have waited to get married first, if i had to do it again, that is what i would choose.

i am sorry if i only confused you more!! :) great question tho'. i guess i was so excited to answer it i got all my thoughts muddled up!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think it's a good idea because it makes the first time so special because the longer you wait for something the more you want it and the specialer it is. I personally am taking that approach and I hope Mr.Right is doing the same.... let me know if you have any other questions about it. I'm open to see both sides of the picture

Answer 4

I am waiting for marriage. I feel that it is the only way because every time you sleep with someone, you give them a piece of your heart. By the time you do get married, you won't be able to offer them your whole self. Also, its something that is so pure and rare in this world and its the best gift to give your spouse on the wedding night.
As far as not knowing if they can please you, that just doesn't make sense. If you love someone enough to get married, then they will definently be able to please you. And it would be your only sex, so you wouldn't be comparing them to past lovers.
Also, most people who do have sex before marriage regret it

Answer 5

I am sure saving yourself for marriage is well worth it. And now that I look back on it, I wish I had waited. The older I get, I realize I had sex out of curiosity, lust, and sometimes for the sake of doing it. Although me and my friends half-jokingly say we would like to "try it" before we "buy it", I find that having sex with someone that you really aren't going to be with for the duration is a waste.

Answer 6

i think it will be worth it because it will be a special union at a significant time in your lives... im currently taking the path.... or in other words.. my girlfriend wants to wait so i have to also (but i dont mind waiting)... im respecting her wishes because i love her so it will be special when it does happen

Answer 7

I believe it is. It is hard sometimes to abide by and live in that decision but I would rather give something to a special someone that no one else has really had.

Answer 8

Yea man because that is another part of life that you can share with that special someone.

Answer 9

yes it is necessary
taking the vow of marriage means ur ready to give urself to that person
so u have sex or whatever

Answer 10

Yes. No STDs or accidental babies.