To cut the long story short, a couple of months back, I spoke to my bf about his female colleague of his who keeps calling and asking him out. Later on I found that she looked through his phone to get my number (invasion of privacy) becoz she wanted me to bring him out on his birthday which he already refused when she asked him in the office. (I mean.. do you need to go through so much trouble for a colleague??)I later found out that my bf actually went out with her and some other colleagues on a few occasions but told me otherwise. Anyhow.. later on she continued to call him to ask him out. Once she even called the home phone becoz she couldn’t reach his mobile. Just recently, we went for a movie and met another colleague, the next day she called my bf to chat and asked him why he did not call her along.. All this is making me pretty upset and I'm really bothered with it. But it seems I can't do anything about it which frustrates me..
2007-03-21 16:17:24 · 7 answers · asked by divine1611 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So obviously I'm not overreacting... I did talk to him before but apparently it's either not working or she is really thick skinned.. which according to my boyfriend.. she is THAT thick skinned... Also the bf mentioned that she actually has a boyfriend as well and I can't ask him not to talk her becoz they are in the same office. One of the occassion he lied to me was when the office people all went out to celebrate her birthday.. so it was definitely not business.
2007-03-21 16:43:08 · update #1
Seems like your boyfriend is enjoying the attention, but is telling you a different story!
2007-03-21 16:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by treasureyourself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see he went out with her and lied to you about it while dating you and you're angry at her. Could it be that you're in denial and angry at the wrong person? Why would you call someone your boyfriend if they would cheat on you and then tell you lies. Sounds like the other girl is not the problem but your self respect and dignity need some work. If you had any self esteem you would kick him to the curb and wait for an honest person to happen along. Of course, you can do something about it but the something you can do is not easy and apparently not what you want to do. One is never without options however often we don't like our choices. Good luck and FYI you can do better there a bajillion men out there who would respect you more than that.
2007-03-21 23:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay down the law, honey! This isn't fair to you or your guy, because he's being harrassed! He needs to tell her himself that she needs to back off because he isn't interested in anyone else. And if that doesn't work, maybe you need to step up to the plate! It's part of the girlfriend rights, you know! And about the meeting up situation, I don't think it was anything to worry about. If other colleagues were there, then it was most likely something dealing with business or something. He probably said that they never "went out" because they didn't! I wouldn't trust this woman if I were you! But good luck. And remember the girlfriend's rights! <3
2007-03-21 23:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by The Prep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think this is an overreaction. if he's been dishonest, let him be a man - let him own up to it. the details here, relate these to him, perhaps even show him the questions you posted during a sit down with him.
the girl needs to learn some manners. in some angle, she comes off as a homewrecker. but really, being overly friendly - aggressively friendly even...
well, you deserve better than this. if they're having goings-on, and behind your back, it's time to talk.
this is not an overreaction.
2007-03-22 00:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either your boyfriend is having a fling on the side with her or she REALLY wants one. Either way, boyfriend needs to step up and be a man. If he is seeing her on the side he needs to fess up and if she is just bugging to have something with him but he is 100% faithful then he needs to be straight forward with her and tell her that she really needs to stay away from him because he is commited.
2007-03-21 23:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG!!! You can do something about it. You're the girlfriend, right? Let him know he's crossing the line with this co-worker and they're both disrespecting your relationship. It can only go as far as he let's it go and she might take it as far as she can if she doesn't get stopped beforehand. It might all be innocent to them, but, if it's causing a strain on your relationship something has to be said.
2007-03-21 23:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur bf tell him to stop talking to her
2007-03-21 23:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by katherine g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋