hi everyone, im 18 and two day ago i had sex for the first time with a guy, as he says he didnt do anything and im still a virgin, but im nor sure if hes telling the truth. the problem is that i did not bleed but i heard that it is not neccesery to bleed. sp i dont know if im still a virgin or not and i dont know can ibe pregnant?? thats what scares me because we did not protect....
2007-03-21 16:17:08 · 35 answers · asked by blueeyeskarine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when i asked him if i can be pregnant he said that he wasnt even inside of me
2007-03-21 16:21:15 · update #1
This makes no sense. If you had sex with him, you would feel him inside you, and no you would not be a virgin any longer, and for future reference, you really need to use condoms. He could be giving you diseases, not to mention getting you pregnant, he is using your inexperience to "trick" you, please educate yourself to prevent this from happening in the future before you either get a disease, pregnant, or hurt. Good luck.
2007-03-21 16:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know really how to explain this to you, but I'll give it my best.
If you were penetrated by any means, you are no longer a virgin. In addition, not all women bleed after loosing their virginity. Regardless of rather or not he received an orgasm you are not a virgin if he entered you.
Also, there is such thing as precum, which some people overlook. It is clear instead of cream colored and is not the result of an orgasm. Actually precum begins with arousal and may not even be evident. Precum is in some cases more potent than regular sperm. In addition, sperm can live in the air for approximately 3 seconds, thus if any precum or sperm was to land in or close enough to your vagina, you could indeed become pregnant.
There are many web sites you can look up if you need more information.
Keep in mind that the safest sex is none, because abstinence is the only foul proof pregnancy protection. However, if you feel you must have sex you should use birth control of some sort (pills, diaphragms, condoms, etc). Keep in mind that the pull out method is not birth control!
2007-03-21 16:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Baby8Grl2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a virgin if he was inside of you. Like everyone else has said, not everyone bleeds. I didn't. It's entirely possible you broke your hymen beforehand through everyday normal activities.
It's really bad that you did not use protection. You won't know if you're pregnant or not for a few more weeks. Keep in mind that he didn't have to ejaculate into you in order for you to become pregnant-- any contact at all can be enough.
What I'm more concerned about is STDs. You should definitely get yourself checked out. Even if he says he's "clean," he could be carrying something and not know it. Get yourself to a doctor ASAP!
2007-03-21 16:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by yuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to believe that you're 18 and unsure about whether you had sex or not. At 18, you must have had some type of sex-ed course or seen some type of movie or read some type of article. If you have not done any of these in the past, please go seek out a sex book and read about so that you know what you're doing. If the boy's penis entered your vagina, you're not a virgin. If he ejaculated inside of you unprotected, you should be worried because that will cause pregnancy. Also, make an appointment with a gynocolegist if that is the case. Good luck.
2007-03-21 16:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Carly O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your English skills are poor, and it appears that your commonsense is somewhat lacking. If you cannot discern weather you are a virgin after penetration you are not mature enough for sex, and if you are not using protection, you're a SOL ignoramus. A man does not need to ejaculate in a woman to impregnate her, some men leak pre-ejaculatory semen. It is rare, but possible, to become pregnant without actual penetration as well. Regardless of your partner's orgasm or lack thereof, if he was inside you, you are no longer a virgin. The bleeding that you refer to happens when a man breaks a woman's hymen with his penis, but all kinds of things (serious exercise, a tampon as examples) can do that. The bleeding that you are referring to does not indicate loss of virginity, although many people incorrectly believe that it does. Please do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of by this boy or any others in the future. Learn more about yourself and sex before deciding to take part in it. Sex is not the game that our society seems to treat it as. There are serous physical and emotional repercussions for both partners. You may be pregnant, but pregnancy won't show on any tests until your period is late, so you'll have to wait to find out. I hope for both your sake and the possible child's sake that you are not. You seem to still be a child yourself. Good luck. Please think before you have sex, and if you believe that you are mature enough to have sex, please use protection.
2007-03-21 16:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had sex then you are NOT a virgin. Most people do not bleed the first time. Honey, you seriously need some sex education. Go to Planned Parenthood or a doctor and get some birth control for yourself and do not believe that guy because he is lying to you.
2007-03-21 16:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to bleed the first time you have sex. And yes, you can definitely be pregnant. You can even get pregnant WITHOUT having sex if his fluids enter you. I know this because it happened to me - no penetration and my doctor confirmed that my hymen hadn't been broken, and yet I was pregnant after messing around. It's not common, but it CAN happen and I wish I had known that. Also, besides pregnancy, you could contract an STD due to the exchange of fluids, even if it doesn't seem like much. I suggest talking to your doctor to get more information and to get a check-up.
2007-03-21 16:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to bleed and guys always say they didn't do anything. No if he penetrated you are not a virgin. I would go to a clinic tomorrow and get the morning after pills--look in the phone book under clinics or sorry abortion clinics--and not have sex until you are on something. I know it is hard to resist men but think of yourself--if you are ready or not sure if you will if a guy pressures you again--just get on the pill.
2007-03-21 16:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these people are nuts... it's SO HARD to get pregnant... they don't tell you this in health class because they don't want kids to be stupid sluts, but maybe one or two days out of the month you can get pregnant and anybody telling you anything else is a liar or someone uneducated... my girlfriend and I never use condoms we just know what days she's fertile... all it takes is some intelligence... if it was anywhere around two weeks since you had a period, start worrying... but even then you probably aren't... I'd be more worried about diseases, however, you gotta know who's boinking you if they aren't wrapping it up
2007-03-21 16:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by White_Mike_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a virgin if you had sex, if his penis went inside ur not considered a virgen anymore sweetie sorry to tell u ;) and you should have used protection, now the only way to know is to wait..if this was recent maybe you can take the morning after pill, u should see ur doctor if being pregnant is something you don't want ;) good luck
2007-03-21 16:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by jennifo! the nympho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋