Ok, so I was with my ex for about 2 years and a half. I broke up with him because he gave me reasons not to trust him. He knows I still him, but I told him not to look for me anymore. But he still comes around, talking about he does want to be with me but that I'm always mad at him for something. Well, yeah I'm mad at him because it seems like he he just wants to be with me whenever he decides he has the time, and I don't wanna be just waiting around for him. But basically here are the reasons why we are always fighting: He has a my space profile, but he gets mad when I look at it. The reason why I look at it is because he says he is single, and there for dating, serious relationships, and friends ofcourse, but I dont mind that one. I told him the other 3 bothers me, but he never updates it, and he is logged in almost everyday. Then, he has all this girls #'s on his cell, which he claims he doesn't talk to, but when he is wiht me, his phone is on vibrate, and he does buy rightones.
2007-03-21 16:02:58 · 20 answers · asked by Liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have a right to be mad at him. someone who is that secretive in a relationship is probably hiding something. Not that he doesn't have his right to privacy but if he knows your having problems trusting him he should be bending over backwards to reassure you he's trustworthy. If he's not doing that then he's probably guilty of something and so you're more than likely playing with fire.
2007-03-21 16:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing the game, which is exactly what you should be doing.....He is not ready for a serious relationship. Or he just isn't ready for a relationship with YOU. At this point it dosen't matter you will never trust him and it will ruin you. I f you want to do him then just do him when you want to. Don't make time for him make him make time for you.
You say if you want to get with me you can take me to " whatever" if he calls on a weekend don't answer....you got better things to do. Don't look at his my space....you don't care how many chicks he talks too. Make a date and break it......you gotta do something with "somebody else" Date a guy he hates once. Have people over and don't invite him.
This will drive him crazy. But don't forget to tell him how much you miss him. Say all the right things then do the opposite. Be the most undependable you can be.
And those girls....he is talking with all of them....
2007-03-21 16:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by brooklyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong for being mad at him? I don't know. I can understand why you got mad when you FIRST found out what a player he is, but after that, well, you knew what he was like, but kept the lines of communication open. Not as open as HIS lines of communication apparently are - his are obviously wide open in all directions - but open.
So you are, essentially, mad at him for being who he is - a player and a user. That's like being mad at a snake just for being a snake. If you don't like snakes, then avoid him. If you do like snakes, then you accept that he is a snake and will behave like a snake.
He's out there saying he's single and available, AND he doesn't want you reading him saying that. He wants you available when he wants you. His cell phone is a "little black book." That is what he does and that is who he is.
And you're always fighting about who he is, because who he is isn't what you want, true? In that case, he isn't what you want, so what he does with his time, attention, energy, whatever is of no interest to you - right?
2007-03-21 16:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did the same to me, although not the myspace thing. It seems that he has an obsession. Like coz u guys were close, he wants you and he doesnt want any1 else to have you. You were his for a while and he know u still luv him and it comforts him, but he also wants every other girl as well and do whatever he wants, even tho he can coz ur both single now. Hes stringing u along hun, ur nothing more than an object to him.
2007-03-21 16:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend once told me "Never be mad on principle" If you are asking for people's approval to be mad at him its very possible that you are playing things out of proportion.
He is your ex, he has every right to have other girls on his phone.
And having the phone on vibrate when he is with you is a sign of RESPECT. It means he is acknowledging that he is with you and that the phone would interupt your time being spent together. However, most people don't turn their phones off all together because then they would not be notified of 'missed calls'
2007-03-21 16:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by buddys_angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u do 2 tell u the truth. if he loves u that much then tell him that u rn't a toy which you can play with when ever he wants! No, I bet (If he's cheating on you) he treats those girls the same. So next time don't get W/ him because it's just going to go all over again. Good luck
-thereisita
2007-03-21 16:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by THERESITA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others (not the one above). You do have every right to be mad at him. My boyfriend did the same thing. He didn't change his myspace for at least 6 months into our relationship and I brought it up to him. He did it right after I told him. It doesn't take that long... if he doesn't care enough to do little simple things like that, then he's deffinitely not worth it. Don't waste your time on someone who's going to cause you grief when you could be with someone who makes you the happiest person on the planet. Or you could be spending your time having fun looking for the right guy. Don't waste your time. This jerk's not worth it!
2007-03-21 16:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by dnfunkymonkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him u want nothing to do w/a guy who wont have time for u and you dont want a guy who has half the girls in this worlds number.and move on there r guys out there who suit u better and have a bad time finding a girl that they can trust jut like u r having a hard time trusting ur x.srry its so long.
2007-03-21 16:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all it looks like he's not serious about being with only you. And you have every reason to be uncertain about wanting to be with someone like that. If he was serious about wanting to be with you and only you then, he would make efforts to show this. So don't waste your time on someone who thinks that your being carefull about your feelings. Personally life is too short to be wasting your time on people who are about b/s. So I would have to say that I definitely justify your reason of being mad about this situtation.
2007-03-21 16:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by darula007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup.you're officially naive. It's clear as daylight to me that this jerk wants to play the field and just keeps you around as a backup.Wake the freak up girl! Get out there and play the field yourself. If men can treat women like we're disposable, then damn it, so can we. Stop wasting your time.
2007-03-21 16:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋