Here's the situation:
I've been interested in this guy B, and he seems to be interested as well. B is a yr older and we went to the same high school (we're 2nd yr uni students). Thing is, I've broken up with my ex for about 2 months now. B is friends with some of my ex's close friends, including one guy who was somewhat involved in getting the relationship between my ex and I started. My ex and I sorta ended it badly, and we barely even talk anymore. B doesn't know my ex even though we (even these "shared" friends of theirs, some of which I'm also sorta friends with) all went to the same high school, most of which are in the same grade.
For some reason, I can't help but think of what these friends will think if B and I do get together. I don't know how many of these friends knew about my ex and I, but I suspect that my ex didn't say much. I'm afraid of any negative talks/opinions from these "shared" friends. What should I do? How do I stop being so sensitive and thinking like this?
2007-03-21 16:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by Crystal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To make this friendship "web" more complicated, I'm sort of friends with B's ex "K" (from 3 yrs ago), and they are still good friends as well. K also went to the same high school as all of us and still keeps in touch once in a while with the "shared" group of friends.
I used to have a crush on B, but then I found out that he and K were together, so I distanced myself and sort of "forgot" everything. But in the past year, long after they broke up, we've started talking again...and when I see K sometimes, I get this feeling that she knew I had a crush on B, and she brings him up casually in conversations, as if to see my reactions...
2007-03-21 16:04:53 · update #1
In answer to your first question...talk to all the people involved about how they really feel. Listen and respond maturely. If its not what you want to hear, don't let it bother you...forgive and forget. If it is, then don't get caught up in the moment...moments aren't forever...just like life.
As to your second question, think about the perfect guy in your opinion. Then ask yourself if you are the perfect girl for that guy. Then ask yourself if any guys currently in your life could be that perfect guy. If they are, great! If not, there's plenty of fish in the sea ;) Until you make a decision, just enjoy life...do something fun to take your mind off of stuff ;) Good luck! :)
2007-03-21 16:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot live your life based on what others will think... Never make a decision using this as criteria. Think about what regrets you may have in the future if you never take that step to get to know "B".
Just do it! And don't look back! I guarantee your ex isn't!!
2007-03-21 23:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go through life worring about what others may think of your situation...make a decision based on your own feelings and others will recognize that you made the right decision for yourself...make it based on what they think and they just may say she doesn't know what she wants because she is doing it for the wrong reasons...do whats right for you...good luck.
2007-03-21 23:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would just create more problems and resentment if he is friends with your ex-boyfriend. Completely move on by dating someone else. All it will create is more DRAMA. You seem like a person who unintentionally creates drama for yourself.
2007-03-21 23:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. Go tell B that you like him. Life is too short to worry what others might say about you. If B is really your friend he wont judge by what others may say. BB
2007-03-21 23:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should call your ex's and tallk to and let him know how you feel.
2007-03-21 23:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by LIL'BOOSIE GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋