my pastar at church is saying things i DONT agre with!!! help?

Question

ok here is some backstory i have ben going to church since i was like 6 with my friend jaysons family. we go every sunday for mas.

fast forward 2 this week and i saw this realy cute girl at chuch mass. she was in my graed and i know her from shcool but she is SO prety.

should i talk to a girl at church or is that not alowed? i just want 2 say hi and eventually maybe asked her to go see a movie or something? jayson says :dude u should totaly go ask her out!!! but i'm" not sure if i should or not.

any advise? maybe i can leave her a note on her pew? but what if her dad sits on it and then he thinks its 4 his daughter and gets made at me? i dont want him to read what i would say 2 her cuz i might say she is SO hot.

any help would be great. have u ever picked up a grilfriend at church or the stoer?

Answer 1

I met my wife at Church, I talked to her after the service, and at youth group.
we have been married 39 years.
you have to watch those church going girls, they like to get married.

Answer 2

Well, in the short run - don't disrupt the service to ask her out. That's just rude (to the other congregants). Most churches have social gatherings ("coffee hour") after Sunday services, and other related activities which should provide you the opportunity to say hello without creating a disturbance.

In the long run, church communities *want* young single people to meet, fall in love, get married and raise families. That's how communities survive and grow. But they also want you to respect that there is a proper time and a proper way to go about this, which starts with (among other things) learning the proper time, place, and manner to make your introductions. The idea is to grow in love and regard for one another in reflection of Christ's love for us; *not* to just bang the first hottie you meet without regard for the consequences.

Good luck, hope it works out.

And what does this have to do with your Pastor?

Answer 3

Darlin, first off, how old are you??? Second, its fine to be interested in a girl who shares your faith; in fact, the Bible says to "marry only in the Lord." However, it goes on to say to marry (or have marriage as a goal) only when you're past the "bloom of youth." That refers to the time when you think only with other body parts then your brain. ;) If you're not in a position to think about a long-term future with anyone, dating a girl can only put you in a situation where you may be tempted to break God's laws (and even if you think the Bible was written 2000 years ago it still condemns fornication, which is sexual contact outside of marriage). If you aren't in a position to look towards marriage, hold off on all that mushy stuff until you can. But if you are at a point where the future's looking bright and you can see yourself seriously involved with someone, go for it! You'll have spiritual goals in mind and that will be a great basis for a long term relationship.

Answer 4

Stay away from the girls at church, dude. If you want a really hot one, you have to go to the bars. You got so carried away with your details, you totally forgot to say WHAT it is the pastor is saying that you don't agree with! And even tho you say you've been going to that church since you were 6, you don't say how old you are now. That makes a big diff, friend. But if you're old enough to be chasing hot girls, you're old enough to quit the church if you disagree. Since she's there with her dad and you are afraid of his seeing any note you give her, then obviously, you are both too young to be fooling around like that. Shame on you. Be sure to bless yourself with an extra helping of holy water when you leave the church.

Answer 5

This has nothing to do with your pastor. If I where you I would just make light conversation to see if she is receptive to you. As you get to know her then you'll feel more comfortable in asking her to go for a soda or a movie. Give it time. Girls don't like boys who are to pushy. If rejected at first don't give up. Still talk with her and see if it's you or the way you advanced on her that caused her rejection. If it's you then move on.

Answer 6

What about the pastor? That was the question I came here to answer, and you sucked it right out from under me- you didn't even ask what you said you were asking. As far as what you did ask: Don't worry about the dad reading the note- he won't understand your spelling. Neither will she. Don't write it. You can talk to her after the service, not during. Good luck.

Answer 7

Okay, so i'm a girl and if i was her i would just want to you to talk to me after church about...normal stuff. maybe you could ask her how she liked the service or something...If her dad hears you talking about "normal" stuff then he will probally leave you alone. First get to know her and then take it from there. DON'T move too quick. after you talk too her a few times then ask for her #. You could also ask her if you could start sitting with her during service. don't forget friendship needs to be made with her first.

Answer 8

Church is an ideal place to find a girlfriend -- you know she believes in God, or at least comes from a good family. Guys sometimes look for girls in all the wrong places- like clubs.

Ask her out.

Answer 9

Hi, i'm Christian, but not of any specific
religion.
I think its great that you like a girl you see at church - you could write her a note, but just in case someone else reads it, don't put anything in it like "you're hot", because a parent might think you are just trying to take advantage of their daughter, ya know?
So keep it real nice and respectful, and just tell her you think she's really nice and would like to know if she'd like to get together sometime?
That would be just fine to do, like i said, as long as you keep the note respectful and clean. Your parents I'll bet would rather you met a nice girl in church rather than on the street corner or in a bar, so its all good.
Best of luck!

Answer 10

No one ever said talking to the opposite sex in church is a bad thing!