Ok, first of all, i have social anxiety. So it's very hard for me to talk to anyone, or be any fun in public. And this has pluaged me for my current 9 years in school. Anyway, i currently want to become better freinds, with my current freinds. And make new freinds, and be a more likable person. As of right now, i'm extremly quiet, and weird. And currently, i'm wanting a girlfreind (i'v sadly never had one yet) pretty bad.
So, please does anyone have tips on how to overcome this?
*please excuse my grammar and spelling*
2007-03-21 15:39:38 · 12 answers · asked by ThemusicalArtist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 19.. and you sound just like me when i was your age... and at this point of my life... i happened to have met my significant other and im not so shy or quiet around people anymore... I dont know if you have this problem.. but do you like yourself as a person?... i didnt truly overcome my shyness until i changed the way i look (spiked my hair and lost some weight and worked out more)... then my confidence increased and i became more sociable (not completey sociable.. just more at ease around people and not that shy) but because of the change i instilled in myself... i became a more likeable person... and as far as girlfriends go... dont be so hung up on finding one.. if you have confidence in yourself... a girl will see that and be interested in you.. hope this helps!
2007-03-21 15:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not at all weird it is just that we are living in a world that your generation was given a television with video games. You probably spent most of your time sitting in front of it having a relationship, and now you have realize that there are real people out there am I right or am I wrong. Well my advice to you is being here, and trying to be sociable with real people is a start if any nice girl e-mails you ask for her number and take it from their, and may you have good luck in making long lasting friendships.
2007-03-21 22:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you are a 9th grader? All boys your age don't know how to talk to girls properly. There is no such thing as a high-school-freshman love god. So don't feel too frightened just yet... all your buddies are awkward with girls too.
In my experience, the true keys to being a good friend and a good love interest are:
-Pay attention to what they say. For example, if they are bitching about a teacher, remember it.
-Ask questions. Remember how they were bitching about a teacher? Maybe ask "So how are things going with Mr. Biologyteach, the scumbag?"
-Be sympathetic when they complain. Self-explanatory, really.
-Try to take an interest in the things your person is interested in. If you like a girl who likes... I dunno, being in the marching band, come out to see her practice. If you like a movie buff, read movie websites and go to see films.
-Don't be afraid. There's nothing wrong with starting with friendship and working up.
2007-03-21 22:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by MissA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key is to ask questions to get the other person talking. When they answer, ask them another question about something they said in their answer. Then you will find yourself relaxing responding to their comments rather than trying so hard to think of something witty to say. Remember people love to talk about themselves if the other person is interested or asking (even if they are shy too!!). Good Luck.
2007-03-21 22:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by diacar60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what...you sound like your pretty hard on yourself. If you already have friends like you said you do then you should just relax and try to have a good time. You've already won them over so you have the skills. If you want to truly be someone that people like to talk to...let them do the talking and just ask questions. Who doesn't like to talk about themselves??
2007-03-21 22:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by XOJordanXO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. ^^ your grammar and spelling is fine. If i were there with you, id knock that SPERKY person out of you :) im good at that. but i cant can i? Make sure you don't look like a scary person. when someone comes up to you, says hi. say hi back but dont look too overly happy and smily. it might make them scared and think you're mental. ANYWAY. ...just make sure you're still yourself. OPEN UP A LITTLE MORE !
2007-03-21 22:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by rawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself this question " Do I really NEED a girlfriend?" Just because you haven't dated doesn't mean that there's no hope for you! Just try to focus on making girl friends first and then go from there.
2007-03-21 22:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by c h u r r o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to approach this problem is to read as much as you can. Always be thirsty for knowlege. How can you talk if you have nothing in ur brain? reading newspaper is good too
2007-03-21 22:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by naruto's girlfriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write poetry, and go to poetry readings.
Being in front of a crowd, you'll build confidence, and meet new, and interesting people.
2007-03-21 22:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry I can't help you, I have a similar problem
2007-03-21 22:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Nohbdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋