I hear both - that a guy loves it when a girl makes the first move, and that if a guy doesn't pursue you with abandon he's just not that into you. Thoughts?
2007-03-21 15:34:23 · 6 answers · asked by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally, i make it known that i'm interested in spending more time with you, and if you can't take that hint, I get tired of not having my actions reciprocated. i just get a lot of friends talking about rules and perception and making people 'want more' and wanted to see what other guys thought. thanks.
2007-03-22 06:29:37 · update #1
I think that you should through what you hear out of the window. If you like someone then you should go after them. It doesn't matter whether you are a guy or a girl. There's this thing called equal rights. Whoever told you that if a guy doesn't pursue you then he's not interested obviously hasn't heard that. If you don't pursue the guy with "reckless abandon", then does that mean that you aren't interested in him? Maybe it does but it could be something different. Guys are the same way. If he's not coming to talk to you it doesn't mean that he doesn't like you necessarily. He could be waiting for you to approach him. It's not really the guys job to make the first move anymore than it is yours to clean or cook. It's alot more productive if you just go for what you want and don't expect other people to do things like that for you. If you are waiting for the guy to make the first move then you could be waiting for a long time.
2007-03-22 02:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I generally make it known I am interested but accept their response as what direction to take . I usually wait for them to make the first move, although my current GF may be the only exception to this rule.
2007-03-21 22:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, im the last guy to notice a girl pursuing me (ive been told countless times).. but it feels good that someone is interested in me... but i will pursue someone when i think its the right time to pursue them... like when i know enough about them to have a good conversation or to have a good time with.
2007-03-21 22:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean when you say pursue. If you mean for the girl to get my phone number, call me, ask me on dates, pick me up to go out etc. No I don't like it. I think a girl can still ask me to hang out, but I want to ask for the date; If she gives me her phone number, I don't mind either (instead of her asking for mine- unless we already know each other). I want the girl to be the girl and not the guy in the relationship and for me to be the guy. If you mean to give me several opportuinites to talk to her, whether conversations, showing up where I am, attention, smiles, etc. Yes I like it.
2007-03-21 22:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by #1bob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I once heard that this cute girl had a crush on me after it was way too late to do anything about it. (got married to someone else OK) Who knows what would have happened had she pursued me?
2007-03-21 22:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Signed1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, i prefer the gal to make the 1st move and sometimes it does catch hold of my attention. to put it simply, its easier for a guy when a gal create chances for him. but as a man we must have initiative that is for sure. but all in all, it has to work both way and a long term objective in mind. responsibility is the key, if i am just out for play it is better to leave her alone. cheers.
2007-03-21 22:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋