wedding registries?

Question

When or how do you notify guest that you are registered?

Answer 1

Put a note mentioning you are registered at the following stores in your invitations to the wedding and to the showers!

Answer 2

Well there are a few answers to your question. You can let guests know via the Bridal Shower Invitation, it's usually printed at the very bottom of the invitation that you are registered at whichever store. Some times it is printed on a seperate small piece of paper, and many stores now give brides little note cards that say you are registered at their store. If you don't want to go that route, you can leave it off the bridal shower invitation entirely (the classier, more tasteful way to go in my opinion), and just have it spread by word of mouth through the bridesmaids or the Moms. As for the "when" portion of your question, you could go the route of telling them "when" they ask. I would say it is a good rule of thumb that people may begin to spread the word when your shower invites go out. Never, never put any gift/registry information into a wedding invitation! That's a huge no-no, contrary to what another poster is trying to convince you of. Bottom line is, as long as the registry info isn't coming from you personally, or w/ the wedding invite you will be fine. I asked my bridesmaids not to include my registry info in the shower invitations, even though I am registered. I kind of felt uncomfortable placing those little cards into an invitation, it comes off a little rude to me. That's just me though. Some people have asked where I am registered and others have not. I received many things off my registry already from those who couldn't attend, but even more surprising, some of my favorite gifts were things guests purchased on thier own, using their own sensibilities and taste. It felt really nice that people tried to think fo things I would like and that would suit me, and they did a fabulous job!

Answer 3

It is bad etiquette to send a registry card with the wedding invitation. The registry cards are usually sent with the shower invitations and those who weren't invited to the shower find out through word-of-mouth, by directly calling you or by being nosy (people will actually go to the popular stores that people register in and will check for your name to see if you registered there.) Another idea, if the people on your guest list are computer savvy is to start a wedding website on one of the source sites listed below. It's free and you can put the registry info there.

Answer 4

Ideally, and the most ettiquette-wise, would be to wait for your guests to ask and then tell them, or have parents/bridesmaids tell them when they are asked. If your guest wants to buy you a gift, and they want to know specifically what you'd like, they'll ask.

Some people, however, put registry information in with the shower invitations. This is frowned upon, ettiquette-wise, but it's so common nowadays that most people do it and most guests don't mind. The shower, after all, is an occassion to shower the couple with gifts, so this practice is a bit more acceptable for shower invitations.

However, it is still a huge no-no to put registry information in with your wedding invitations. A wedding is about bringing people together to celebrate, and a gift is optional.

Answer 5

It is totally bad etiquette to put where you are registered in your invitation. Basically you are telling people the following:
a) expect a gift
b) where they are to buy the gift
c)what you want and how much they are to spend on you

It is ok to register somewhere and if people ask you can tell them. But basically have your wedding party, mothers and other relatives spread the news by word of mouth.

I am a certified wedding planner and every course I have taken and every etiquette book I own say the same thing.

There are ways to let people know while still showing class.

p.s. If someone is throwing a shower for you - like a bridesmaid or a aunt, it is acceptable for them to put a registry card in the invitation. As long as the invitation is not coming from you, your fiance, or either of your parents.

Answer 6

The only way that your guests should find out where you are registered is by word of mouth, by them asking you, your family or friends. Most people will assume you are registered somewhere and will ask for information. It is very improper to include registry cards in ANY invitations. This is not my opinion, it is common wedding etiquette. It seems most people choose not to follow or do not know about this rule. I am not trying to offend anyone who has done this, I know plenty of people who have, but it still does not make it proper.

Answer 7

Put notices in your bridal shower invitations but not the wedding invitations. Make sure to also let all of your bridal party and close relatives like a mom or sister know-guests will ask them where you are registered.

Answer 8

OKAY! I AM SO SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING THAT IT IS IN POOR TASTE TO PUT IT IN THE INVITATIONS! Most people do it, which I know doesn't make it proper. However, guests will feel more akward getting a phone call to tell them where you are registered verses getting a note in the invitation stating where you are registered. Also, these days people will probably think you forgot to put the note in the invitations if you don't. So, just go ahead and put it in the invitations. Oh and by the way, I know people are probably going to give me a thumbs down- they have to similar answers.

Answer 9

Ahh, here's the trick...YOU don't notify your guests where you're registered. Unless they ask outright. You "slip" the information to your Maid of Honor (or whomever is throwing you the shower) and that person puts the information in the invitations for the shower. Otherwise, it's like you're asking for gifts!

Answer 10

when people want to know they will ask, it's rude to go to someone and say here is where you can get me gifts to celebrate me :)
you can tell your close relatives and wedding party so when people ask they can tell them too.
you should register about 9-12 months before the wedding