I RECENTLY GOT INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN WITH KIDS. I KNEW IN THE BEGINNING HE HAD KIDS BUT I THOUGHT I COULD HANDLE IT. HE IS A GREAT FATHER AND HE LOVES THEM VERY MUCH. HE IS A REALLY GREAT PERSON AND I REALLY LIKE HIM BUT I DON'T HAVE ANY KIDS. I AM LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP FOR THE LONG TERM. I WANT KIDS OF MY OWN SOMEDAY AND HE DOESN'T WANT ANYMORE KIDS. I HAVE REALLY GROWN ATTACHED TO HIM AND VICE VERSA BUT I'M NOT SURE I CAN HANDLE SHARING HIM. PLEASE HELP. I WAS ONCE ENGAGED TO A MAN WHO HAD CHILDREN AND I GOT VERY ATTACHED TO THE OLDEST ONE (HE HAD CUSTODY OF HER) AND WHEN WE BROKE UP HE STOPPED ALLOWING ME TO BE APART OF HER LIFE. I AM AFRAID HISTORY MAY REPEAT ITSELF SO I KEEP MY DISTANCE FROM THE KIDS, BUT I'M NOT SURE IF IT BECAUSE I DON'T ACCEPT THEM OR MY FEAR OF HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF. I AM REALLY CONFUSED AND COULD USE SOME POSITIVE ADVISE.
2007-03-21 15:04:23 · 6 answers · asked by cluelessly_n_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said he didt want anymore kids but he told me if we ever got married or i wanted children he would be open to have one more.
2007-03-21 15:17:28 · update #1
i've never told him how i feel about this or about my past experience. do you think it will help or hurt if i do?
2007-03-21 15:35:34 · update #2
I wouldn't go with someone with kids (no offense) so I won't tell you to do the opposite. You should find someone that's single, unmarried or divorced, and with no children and date them. If you'd like to, you can continue to be this guy's friend or someone he can talk to.
2007-03-21 17:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a ready made family for you, and if you ever want a child of your own, I would not get more involved. If the children are very young, and the mother is not in the picture, I would say go for it. But if the children are past 5 and the mother is involves, you are possibly wasting your time. Children hold a very special bond for their mother, even if the mother is dysfunctional. You would be feeling constantly in competition. Plus the father has a huge job on his hands, and you would not get the attention you really want. The kids did come before you!!!
2007-03-21 15:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off...he is selfish....for not wanting children with you..I don't think one can call that love ..why should you deprive yourself from becoming a Mom... you deserve someone that wants to share parenthood with you...after all we are here on this earth....just this once ..make your life the best possible...Good luck to you.
2007-03-21 15:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by whirangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me, you already know your answer. You do need to answer this one yourself. I want to say, dont get involved but it sounds like you already are. Think of the children too, they will be hurt too, if you get closer to them, and then decide you cant handle it. If he seriously doesn't want anymore children, I'd say you do need to move on though. good luck.
2007-03-21 15:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are beautiful woman... FIND a single man without kids cuz you want to have your own kids someday ...
trust me on this one!!
2007-03-21 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by goddessrose4toys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the 0 get with the hero......... (me)
2007-03-21 15:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋