i'm a loser!
2007-03-21 14:58:00 · 9 answers · asked by Freshfiero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nah, you're not a loser, you just haven't "figured it out" yet. Anyway, the real answer is that you just do it. At this point, you don't get confidence and then talk to girls... you talk to girls, and then you get the confidence.
You just have to keep reminding asking yourself... "what is the worst that can happen?" I think that I read that many, many years ago in a public speaking book. Once you have the answer to the question, you keep on asking until you get to a logical end/figure out that it really doesn't matter if she shoots down your advances. You won't ruin your life.
Looking back... it really seems so silly that, I too, used to be shy with women. Now that I am married, it really all seems so pointless. Who cares if someone denies your advances? Who cares? I say the machine-gun approach is the best... hit on as many women as possible until you get a good response. Sure, you will miss a lot, but, heck, where's the damage?
Let me stress: repetion, repetion, repetion. How does one become a math whiz? By going to page 800 of the text book? Nope... practice, practice, practice. You think NFL players could play at a high level without practice and repetiiton?
2007-03-21 15:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find a girl you like at work, school, church or somewhere you do hang out and talk to her. If you don't know what to talk to her about try a hobby of hers.
Your other option is to widen you horizons and try new things. Try going to a bar once in a while with friends or try going on a TV show. You never know you might just have a good time. Every experience teaches you something so go experience life.
About the confidence thing I would say that talking to women might improve your confidence a little but maybe a female friend could help more. It's really hard to give you tips on confidence without knowing you because I cant really see your body language or how you interact with people.
2007-03-21 15:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you have to go to a bar there are plenty of other places to meet women. As far a your confidence goes build it up you can start by not referring to yourself as a loser.
2007-03-21 15:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by HoneyBrisk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your not a loser, so don't say that again. there are a lot of girls who don't like the bar scene either. check out your local starbucks, or a coworker. how bout match.com. get a hobby that asks people to meet and get together something like a science fair. your local library, just talk to women, cause you know what, your never gonna win, if you don't play the game.
2007-03-21 15:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Whatcanbrowndo4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a loser too. Then I discovered a place with 95 percent women, all single and none of them been with a man for years.
The Catholic Nunns school is a great place to hang.
When you get as pathetic as me, then you can complain, Grasshopper.
2007-03-21 15:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Toeless_Joe_Jackson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a ticket to Russia. Losers are Winners over there.
2007-03-21 15:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the internet because then you arent face to face and you will get to know someone for their personalitly...good luck
2007-03-21 15:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your no loser.they arent any different to talk to then anyone else.just hi,how are you,pretty nice weather we are having,isnt it,and one thing will lead after another.maybe they are afraid to talk to you too.you know i was like that once myself,but i just thought i would just start talking to them and guess what,they are not as bad to talk to like you would think.
2007-03-21 15:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cap the L
2007-03-21 15:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋