So I dated this guy for two months. I had never really dated before and was a virgin when I met him. I fell very hard for this guy and he made so many promises and I really believed him down in my heart. On Valentines, he broke up with me for his ex over a txt msg. I forgave him but didn't tell him then later found out that they had broken up.
I was interested in dating again but the guy was so wishy-washy. He told my friend he works with her one thing, and me another.
He was my first and knew that I wanted to wait for marriage and then told me he wanted me to be his wife. He made millions of promises like that. I know I was stupid for doing what I did but was I that stupid?
He threw our relationship & what I shared with him away like it was a pile of dirty socks. Did he use me just to have sex? Or was he interested? (Don't really think so) GUYS plZ help.
Do you all think like this or all the good ones taken?
2007-03-21 14:56:27 · 14 answers · asked by p_shell1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When i talked to his new GF he said he felt like he changed me and he didn't want to do this.
So sometimes it seems like he cares alot then other times not at all. He is a good person but there are sometimes that I just want to kick him in the ****.
I am trying my best to get over him but for some reason I keep hanging on. Don't know why.
He knows that I would give 100% and that I do love him. I had never felt anything like his love before. Can someone please tell me what is going on inside his brain?
2007-03-21 15:00:18 · update #1
You were lead down the garden path sugar ,,,, That guy is like all the rest your age ,,,, They have no idea what commitment means or entails ,,,, In short they let their glands do their thinking for them in stead of their brain ,,,, If they even have one ,,,, He's a perfect example of a guy willing to say or do anything as long as he gets what he wants ,,,, That kid is very lucky you aren't my daughter ,,,, I would see to it that he was rendered incapable of being able to ever have sex again for the rest his life ,,,, So OK ,,,, you made a mistake ,,,, You can't be blamed for that ,,,, Just remember it and learn from it and try to warn others that could fall into the same trap you did ,,,, You aren't a bad girl because of this and you shouldn't think that you are ,,,, ever ,,,, If anything you fell victim to this maggot ,,,, He told you everything you wanted to hear to convince you and cajole you into doing exactly what he wanted and was after ,,,, You had something he wanted and he got it ,,,, OK lesson learned ,,,, Just pick and go from here ,,,, Just keep alert to the things that can happen and don't listen to anyone on the make so to speak ,,,, And remember that guys your age and older ones even ,,,, some times as old a 30 or in their 40's do the same thing ,,,, It might be a good idea for you to sit down and write out a list of do's and don'ts for yourself and stick to them ,,,, You could probably have your Mom help you with it ,,,, No mother would ever knowingly steer their daughter in the wrong way ,,,, Usually once it's known that you have rules for yourself and have set standards to follow you will gain more respect from every one including that maggot that tricked you ,,,, Where he is concerned you do what you want but were I in your shoes I would tell him that in no uncertain terms you will not allow him to touch you ever again and if he does you are going to holler rape ,,,, that bastard needs to be stopped ,,,, He's a danger to anyone's daughter that is exposed to him ,,,, Good luck sugar ,,,, You posted a very good question ,,,, I'll give you a star for it ,,,, Take care and just use your head ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,
2007-03-21 15:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy ,but let me give my input.You sound very young.It's ok to make mistakes at your age.Just make sure you learn from it and do not give another guy the priviledge of getting into your"temple" unless you have dated for a few months.Mkae sure within those months, you spend alot of time with him.Watch his moves.Does he seem like a "player?" A guy who cares only about his pleasures and adding girls to his "list?" You didnt give enough info, but from what you said, it seems like you were used in a way.If the boy is in his teens, he probably didnt know the gravity of your actions.Young boys just want to have fun.Although girls like yourself may be at a higher level of maturity, young boys can be very immature and iresponsible.If you feel used, then most likely you were.Don't sweat.I mean, even though you will never get your virginity back, life goes on.Thank God you didnt become pregant.Use this mistake as a lesson.One day you'll be in the arms of the man tha t truly loves and say to yourself , boy was I naiive and stupid.Being stupid and naiive is part of growing up.Why would he leave you for a text mesage?If he wanted to be with you he would have forgiven you.Lesson # 1, never chase after a guy.If he wants to be with you he will chase until he has succeeded.#2 do not let your emotions over rule common sense.#3 learn from your mistakes and move on..it happened already.If it's meant to be, it will happen.Till then, occupy yourself with important/enjoyable activities .Trust me, if you chase after him, he'll just keep running.
2007-03-21 22:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he had some feelings for you but i also think he used you too. no your not stupid..guys are just really good at fooling us sometimes. I wouldnt ever get back together with him though..ive known alot of guys to make promises they cant keep. but as for being stupid and making a mistake..yeah you made a mistake but that dont make you stupid. things happen for a reason and you will just have to try to move on from this guy. things will get better and this guy will learn his lesson when hes 89 and is a divorced old man. just dont let it bother you or keep you down..things happen and we just have to learn from our mistakes.
2007-03-21 22:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like hes a peice of ****, and all his bullshit was only to get you into bed, dont forgive him, he is an asshole and of course you were going to fall hard for him as he was your first, be careful of fellas like that, dont sleep with your them untill you have been dating them for a while, if i were you id make up a nasty rumor about him just to get some revenge, tell all the girls that he has a really small penis and he was hopeless in bed, that will hurt him, and it will make you feel good, but cut him off compleatly, dont talk to him dont be nice to him dont even smile at him, get over him and do not let him back in your life as fellas like that will ony hurt you more, there are some good ones out there, but you are young and are bound to have your heart broken a few times, you'll be fine, dont worry about assholes like that
2007-03-21 22:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by mumma_of_4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one I just want to tell you sorry for the way that this guy treated you.... He is the type of guy that gives all men a bad rep. From the sound of it he told you what you wanted to hear to gain your trust, once he had your trust he took it farther by telling you that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you and make you his wife cause he new that you were saving yourself for marrige... When you herd that it made your day and he got what he wanted and left you in that dirt, Im so sorry you stuck with one of those a**holes.... I really think he used you... thats just my appinion....
2007-03-21 22:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, men will say anything to get into your pants. Its the thrill of the chase and when thats over its over. If you wanna give it up, thats cool, but if you want to keep them around... Make it so they cant walk away. Know that they have fallen in love with you and unfunctional without you. A real man, with real feelings wont keep trying to get into your pants!
2007-03-21 22:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by Trish G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably believes that he loved you...but he didn't. i think this because someone that truely loved you would respect your wish to wait until you were married to have sex...even if it did seem like a small thing. i couldn't tell you that you were stupid cause i did the same thing. and yes, i did think it was really really really stupid. the key is to learn from what you did and not get into that lifestyle. the best way to do this is to realize...omg that was so stupid!
2007-03-21 22:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys are like him, but he definitely used you to get what he wanted and left when he did. Just remember that there is no good reason to hurry to jump into bed with a guy just because he wants to.
2007-03-21 22:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm not a guy, but us girls are nieve and will believe anything as long as it's what we want to here. not all the good ones are taken you just have to find them and thats the hard part.
2007-03-21 22:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it`s sure that he used you to have sex
you should know a guy better before dating him and you shouldn`t fall in love for the first asshole you meet
so be more carefull
2007-03-21 22:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋