My best(and last) relationship ended when i moved 8 months ago and we never really broke up we just drifted apart. however, i still kept and have STRONG feelings for him, we've both dated other people but i can't shake that i stll really like him even though our contact has dwindled to practiaclly nothing. we didn't have sex before i left and i don't regret that because we did drift apart but i really want to have it when i visit in a few months, partly because i really do have deep feelings for him and because i want to prove that i've grow up alot from where i was then. i wouldn't be so hesitant except he's definitley not a virgin and i am...would it be stupid to lose my virginity to someone i probably won't see for a while after and probably won't have sex with again? i dont think virginity is a big deal i just dont want to loose it on a causal date(hence why i haven't). i dont want him to feel like he owes me something if we do...
2007-03-21 14:51:18 · 18 answers · asked by ali In wonderland 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(im only a junior) so it's not like im a 20 something whose been harvesting her virginity...and regarding waiting for marriage, that's not something that interests me because i want lots of life experience
2007-03-21 14:57:58 · update #1
DONT DO IT. YOU WILL DEEPLY REGRET LATER. There is a reason you didnt sleep with him in the first place. Don't get me wrong I am all for sex whenever you feel it is right but this just doesnt seem quite right to me.
2007-03-21 14:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ponch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow I get the feeling you already know what you want to do. If your scared of loosing your virginity, then don't do it. If it's not an issue and your hormones are raging, then you better tell him to strap up, if your going to have sex with him. I think that your wondering what it would have been like if you had sex with him prior to you leaving. All you need to do is meet someone where you live at now, don't date them exclusively, and keep him on the side. That way you won't feel so torn between your feelings. Personally I think if you move away to another place, the past is the past, however it's all up to you.
2007-03-21 15:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i first started to read your question, I thought oh hell no, don't do it with him, because of the distance and because you're not with him. Then as I read on, I see that you state you don't care about your virginity, (that's just how I was too girl, I think it's over rated!) I think that you have your head on straight. If you want him to be your first and you have considered all the pros and cons of it being him, then I say go for it. The one thing you seem to be certain about is that you are ready for that move. Just be careful, who knows, he may fall in love with you after that. Then how would you handle that? At any rate, I wish you luck.
2007-03-21 15:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex certainly complicates things. In situations like this, it's very hard to know what will happen afterwards, but be sure that something probably will for good or for bad. One thing to be sure about though is not to come into the situation thinking "I want to have sex"- that can lead to a very bad get together for both of you. If you don't want it, make sure you don't let yourself get in a situation where it's an option, but if you do want it, just let the encounter move naturally and see what happens.
2007-03-21 14:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by locusfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it would be stupid to lose your virginity to him or anyone that you do not have a loving and committed relationship with. Does anyone read the Bible anymore...just because it is 2007 does not mean that the moral values are different. We as a society need to stop accepting everything as normal and start making people ashamed for immoral behavior.
2007-03-21 14:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless you really really love this guy. I know it sounds traditional, but if you can wait till you r married, please wait, but if you can't wait, do you with someone that you think will be your future husband. If you aren't think that far yet, then do it with someone once very special in your life.
The first time you do it will b very special and it will leave you a strong bonding with this guy, especially if you have feelings for him. It will be difficult for you to let him go. Sometimes you can't control what your hearts will feel.
2007-03-21 15:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait for the right guy. If you seriously dont wanna just loose it in meaningless way. You need to really really think about it. I lost my mine to an ex that cheated her boyfriend with me while she was pregnant. I really think you should not make the same mistake I did. I hope you take your time and meet the right person.
2007-03-21 14:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first mistake is " i dont think virginity is a big deal i just dont want to loose it on a causal date(hence why i haven't).", your own words. Have you no self respect? have you no regard for yourself or are you just a cheap easy mark? If you and he are doen why would you even think to bed him?
BAD BAD BAD IDEA
2007-03-21 14:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've gone this long and have kept your virginity, don't waste it on this guy. Save it for someone worth remembering.
2007-03-21 14:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. You don't want to lose something that important to someone you are not in love with or committed to.
2007-03-21 14:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋