Okay, so I have this "so called friend" of mine...and she's like this total flirt, and really giggly around the guys. Well I've made this mistake in the past with her, but I would tell her about a new guy that I am interested with, and the next day you would see her all over him, but then she claims she doesn't like him. Now, is she doing this to get at me? Because let me tell you, I have done NOTHING to make her do this. Now she's been doing this to me since last year. Every guy that I've ever liked she has gone after him. What am I supposed to do? I mean I can't really fight for him, I'm not the best looking girl out there, and yes, I don't have the best figure either, but I'm just sick of losing the guys I really like to someone else because of what I look like. So I just don't know what to do!
2007-03-21 14:47:20 · 16 answers · asked by tomwlglvr5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a new friend.. she is not your friend!!
2007-03-21 14:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart she is not really your friend. Sounds like you both are insecure. Have you ever heard that some people hang with others that are not in their league ( in the looks dept) just to make themselves feel better. You have to love you. Stop telling yourself that you are not that good looking or that you do not have a good body. I am 5 feet tall and a size 18 (too big for my height) When I was a size 5 and did not love me I did not have many prospects, but now I love me more than I love anyone else and I am turning more heads in a size 18 than I ever did in a size 5. Girl get your head straight and find a real friend in the process.
2007-03-21 14:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone on this page is just gonna tell u a bunch of crap!!!! let me tell ya somthin i was in the exact position ur in now just last year well i'm 13 and i don't have the best figure either and i don't get guys 2 well either!!!! but i told my bff to just step off but that didn't work so i told hersomeone who was pretty cute that i did not like and then she would be all over them but then the guy that i really like was availeable so then i would just start conversation and thenjust pass notes and take it from there so ya if u need help u can e-mail me at alton_gurl_94@yahoo.com or prettyful_gurly on xanga i wish the best luvk 2 ya love always mackie
2007-03-21 14:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by {{i ♥ muh prince}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but she doesn't sound like a very good friend. She could be the competitve type and I have had friends like that and it is very annoying. If you have to compete with a "friend" then she's not a real friend. You may not think that you are the best looking girl but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and whoever you're with will think youre beautiful.
2007-03-21 14:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know. thats why i dont tell her or her friend who i like. i know you made the mistakes of doing this in the past. but if she was a real friend and she knew how you truely cared for him she shouldnt be doing that. to me thats totally messed up. i think she is only doing cuz you probably could get the guy and she cant so she wants to you feel horrible about your self. soo i think you should just go for it. and dont let her push you around.
2007-03-21 15:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by RhixCorE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is a good one.
A: She's not your friend. She's your mistress, with the power over you that you give her.
B: Stop telling her your secret desires, it allows her to undermine you, like a spy at war.
C: You can flirt just as much as she can. Have confidence in yourself.
D: Stop talking to her. Don't answer her calls, ignore her. If she confronts you, walk away, don't say anything.
2007-03-21 14:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to confront her about it and ask her why she is doing this. Then once you find out your answer go from there. If your still in school do not be in a hurry to date. Let you and her part at gradutation. But do not give it away about why. Just say you wanna go your way and leave her. Then she should be clear of you.
2007-03-21 14:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know either of you
But my sister and i
We have these instincts
Like a lot of other girls
And we want what we cant have
E.i a friend's crush
So we start crushing on him too
I get pissed at it and so do my friends
But usually theres really no harm
And plus, unless you're really really serious about this guy
It shouldnt be a biggie
2007-03-21 14:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by STPM™ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is to talk clear with your "friend", get things straight with her, also, if you try and choose a guy, it will be a disaster. Don't choose a guy that you want to like, act yourself and you will see that there will be a great guy out there for you, so pucker up and relax, you boyfriend awaits you.................................... =D Hope this helps you in some way. Take Care
Sincerely,
Dudman =)
2007-03-21 14:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad to say that many girls are like that - forever the competitor and going thru folks like it was changing shoes ..... sad thing is they never realize that they are playing with peoples hearts and lives and sometimes there are bridges burned that cannot be rebuilt
learn not to share so much info with her especially when it is someone you are beginning to care for
before you allow her to defeat your mentally(not the best figure, not the best looking).......realize that beauty is in the eye of the beholder......many folks are attracted to many different things......one of which just as easily could be you, as her
enhance your strengths - she can only have as much power as you allow her
2007-03-21 14:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and try to be focus on who u r, and try to give more than she does, because when u give my lady WE will take even though if we own the world we still can take .. so i hope i could write something that may help... it will for sure if got the point.
2007-03-21 14:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by arsouzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋