Okay well, I just want to know how much housework a 12 year old girl should have to do. She doesnt live there most of the time, only on wednesdays and every other weekend.
2007-03-21 14:29:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If she is with you only on weekend is the house work the most important task you have to give her?Don't you think spending more quality time with her will be better than leaving her do your house work,especially after she lives there only 2 days a week?When you give her some house work and she takes her time doing it,half of your time with her is already gone,spent in cleaning or washing something.When she comes to your house she hasn't made dirty anithing or scattered her room,so what work will you give her?The one you have scattered?That's not fair.If you insist on making her do house work,make her wash plates or wash her clothes or clean her room and that's it.
Where is she in the other part of the week is the place where she has to be given house work,not the lousy 2 days which she wants to spend with you,not cleaning something.
2007-03-21 18:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances, I'd say keep her room clean and set the table for dinner and help clear the table. Since she's there part time it's not fair to ask her to run the sweeper, dust, clean the bathrooms and all the other house cleaning stuff. I wouldn't want my 12 yo to do all that any way, but she would definitely help more if she lived with me full time. Right now, we split chores in my house, I have a 5, 6 and 17 yo. We each have our jobs and then on Saturday we do a BIG cleaning where everyone pitches in.
2007-03-22 00:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was 12 she was cleaning the kitchen after dinner (all dishes, sweeping the floor, taking out the trash, cleaning the cabinets), feeding and watering the dog daily, cleaning the kitty litter and taking out the bathroom trash. She does that on a daily basis. She doesn't do it "perfectly" because she is not me but she has always done a pretty fair job if it. She is 14 now and still does those chores along with a few others. If she wants EXTRA free time she has to do extra chores to earn it. We don't give her an allowance, we just buy her whatever it is that she NEEDS at the time, but she has to earn her free time outside or on the phone on a daily basis.
2007-03-22 08:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a close family and we depended on each other a lot. So at 12 I would help mom with the clothes washing (we didn't have washers and dryers back then), I'd scrub the porches, clean my room, scrub the bathroom and kitchen floor, do the dusting of the tabletops, help Mom with making the beds and set the table for meals, and I'd help her wash the dishes (I used to hand dry them). Occasionally she would let me peel potatoes for dinner.
2007-03-21 21:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's difficult because she is not there full time. Still, you want her to feel like she's family and family pitches in. I would ask her to make her bed, keep her clothes picked up and help with the dishes or set the table. This seems like bare minimum. I don't know where you live but she could help shovel snow or rake leaves when the season calls for it.
2007-03-21 21:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is there on only 10 days in a month So i figure she should at least clean her room while she is at your house and help with dishes, table etc. But when she comes don't make her whole stay work because than she is going to hate it.
2007-03-22 01:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by skipper.2666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since she doesnt live there I would just ask her to help out when you are doing house chores like taking out the trash or swiping the floor. There shouldn't be any set rule..she doesn't live there and shouldn't have to clean up your mess
2007-03-21 23:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has her own room, I would have her keep it clean. Other than that, since she has limited time there, I like the setting the table idea; it will help her feel like she is part of the family and get involved.
2007-03-21 21:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keeping her room clean, folding the clean towels, putting up her laundry and picking up her things that she just leaves lying around the house for no reason.
2007-03-21 21:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 12 i had to do the dishes and clean my room and take out the trash. so not to many but no to less.
2007-03-21 21:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by madeinsandiego619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋