This is a follow-up to my last question...so for those of you who haven't read it....I have a friend with benefits. Over the last month he'd been acting differently [[sweeter, more romantic, etc]] and I was beginning to think he may have feelings for me and I had been developing feelings for him. So, I was asking what everyone thought of the way he was acting and whether or not I should tell him how I feel. Everyone pretty much agreed I should tell him, so I did. His response: "I really like you a lot and I do have feelings for you. I definitely can see us together and I'd love to date you, but......I'm just not ready to make a commitment to a serious relationship right now." NOW my question is...when a guy says something like that, is he serious? I really do like this guy a lot. So, will it be worth it for me to stick around and wait for him to be ready or is he just screwing with me?
2007-03-21 14:23:11 · 4 answers · asked by Ally V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At least he told you the truth i would stick around but if something comes around go for it i mean you know he likes you but hes not ready but you dont know when he is so Good Luck
2007-03-21 14:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be fully serious. He may not be sure of what he wants right now but he knows he likes you. I wouldn't wait though.
Don't wait. You already know you like him and want more. Do you want to fall further to find out he decides he doesn't want anything else....ever.
You told him how you felt and he said he feels the same. that's great if he wanted the same thing. He doesn't. It's sad and hard to hear. (especially since he makes it sound so nice and tempting to stay) But you shouldn't put your life on hold waiting to see if he may be ready later.
Tell him you can't take that risk. Tell him you like him and you are glad he likes you too but you are ready for a relationship. He isn't and you respect that you won't settle for less. You respect his decision he should also respect yours.
This will give him a chance to miss you and maybe his relationship fears will disappear. If not, then you know he couldn't have felt as he said he did.
Do not listen to his words. Break it off and see what happens. At least you won't get hurt further. You are worth a whole relationship.
2007-03-21 21:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being honest.
Move on, for real.
If in the future he's ready, sure. But don't wait for him. You might wait for years, and he's with someone else he meets six months from now. Then you';ll be waiting for THAT one to end.
Move on, no lie. Lots of people out there.
2007-03-21 21:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he really does like you but not enough to make it exclusive.
He should get points for being honest
2007-03-21 21:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋