How do you end stalker-ish, obssessive, repettive, longterm feelings over a very hard catch?

Question

There was this store clerk whom I met over a year and a half ago, but cannot get out of my head and I miss him dearly. We talked no more than five minutes in the store about personal things and he was very rarely attractive inside and out. At least one in ten thousand. He then spotted me at a mall and had greeted me warmly two weeks later but left. At both times, I was in the middle of a two-year life crisis, very caught up in so many things in my schedule that I was overwhelmed and scared and so I did not invite him for anything even showing potential interest. I regret it all too much and I did not get his name or anything else that would help me find him.

I know it's silly of me to be like this and creepy.

Has anyone felt this way about a special someone you barely knew?

Answer 1

I understand you.
I wish you could have shown him your interest in some small way. Sometimes, those little angels come into our lives when we are at a crisis. Those wonderful little creatures...You know that rare person when you know! Do you remember him buying something in a store? Could you find out from the shop keeper who that was?
I would get back to that store where he worked. If he isn't there go there and find out where he is! Just get a name, and go search for him on lycos.

Answer 2

yes i have. The technical term is obsession or infatuation. You'll eventually get over it. Maybe go to therapy, sounds like you have other underlying issues. Is your dad around?

Answer 3

i have.

what i learned i had to do - is put myself in the mindset that all meetings happen for a reason - and you should be thankful for even that little time you may share together. If its to come. . . it will come - eventually.

Answer 4

think about somebody else. that will take ur mind off him. dont stalk him, he will just be scared!