I felt so bad about not giving my son a birthday party when he turned one, but at the time I couldn't afford it. I was ridicule about it from friends and family. I am totally going to make up for it when he turns two in August.
2007-03-21 14:13:56 · 26 answers · asked by trina24 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh my gosh! You mean you didn't let your phone bill laspe so you could give him a party he won't remember?!?
I think your honesty is great. I amhaving my daughter's first birthday party this year and she's 4! And I'm only doing it because my husband is military and he missed her birth and her first 3 birthdays. I was raised that birthdays were for families...not 50 kids running around with the parents wishing it would end soon. Anyway, good for you and I'm sure he'll have a great birthday this year!
2007-03-21 18:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Silver B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. He is your son and if you didn't want to throw a big party then that's your decision not theirs. If you feel guilty about it, in the future for other kids what you could do is just have people over for cake that you make from a box (like $1.29 at the store). You don't have to have any decorations and that way your son gets presents from people that love him that you might not be able to afford. I wouldn't feel guilty though. He's not even going to remember it. Do you remember your 1st birthday? Your family shouldn't be giving you a hard time, especially if it was clear back in August and you're having a party for him this year! Good Luck and don't feel bad!
2007-03-21 14:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by cavwife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GRRR!
Please do not feel bad. I am happy to read that you chose your priorites and did what you needed to do.
If the same situation happens when he turns TWO then a cupcake it is!
Some of these people have these parties for a one year old and the cost about $400 or so bucks to put on and the kid is cranky and sleepy and wants only to play with the boxes.
I went to a birthday party for a one year old about 5 years ago and the POLICE came (too much noise at the bar b que)
My point is that some of this is all about show.
not having a birthday party for your one year old does not mean you are a bad mother.
Dont let anyone GUILT you into thinking that you are, if they thougth it was so terrible, why werent they coming over to drop off a gift and some cupcakes?
2007-03-21 14:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont beat your self up over this - its not like it was his 16th or 21st! A child doesnt remember their first birthday and really parent s only have one to show off to their friends and family.
If you werent in a position to feed the whole damn neighbourhood by throwing a party for a 1 year old then that is nothing to be ashamed about!
If anyone should be feeling bad about anything, its your family and friends who have made you feel like you did something wrong! Would they have preferred you threw a huge party for your son...but then didnt pay the rent or eat for the next month?! Its stupid and you should tell them just that if they continue to rib you about it.
And dont feel the pressure to have a HUGE second birthday either, if I was you, after being treated this way by family and friends, Id not have the party and just take my son out somewhere special without all those stuck up idiots who call themselves friend and family!
2007-03-21 14:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not remember not having a birthday when he was one.
So no more beating yourself up. As for your friends and family tell them to stop making you feel bad. When he turns two let him have a party you can afford. If he asks where the pictures are from his first birthday tell him you could not afford a party. A cake and balloons is all you need for a party.
2007-03-21 14:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can remember form my son's first birthday party were the noisy toys that I told my parents will stay there house and my mom going to the hospital. I doubt your son knew he was one year old. The party is more for the adults anyway. You should have told your friends and family to throw your son a birthday instead.
2007-03-21 14:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First birthday parties are for the parents and family because the baby is too young to appreciate it or remember it. It's a huge milestone for the adults but for the baby it's just another day. We had a small birthday party for my daughter's first birthday and will do the same for my son when he turns one in April.
2007-03-21 14:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first daughters first birthday was beautiful, I spent hundreds of dollars on decorations, food and presents. There were pink helium balloons covering the entire roof, she wore the cutest ballet dress. She also woke up 2 hours into it, and fell asleep 3 hours later. I dont think she even knew what was going on, all she knew is that all those weird people were bothering her and flashing lights in her face. That party was mostly for me I guess. My second girl, got a pretty little dress, and a cute mini cake just for her and a couple of presents. I took her to chucky cheese. I can tell you right now that my second daughter had way more fun with sister, mommy and daddy, than with all those people and a hectic environment. So its better to throw your son a birthday party when its for him and he can actually enjoy it.
2007-03-21 14:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby didn't even realize it was his birthday. A home party at this age is perfectly fine. Dont listen to family and friends at least at 2 he will somewhat know what is going on. Big parties for babies is a bad idea anyway stop feeling guilty and ignore the negative people in your life unless of course they would like to pay for the party they should keep their mouths shut.
2007-03-21 14:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. At one he, didn't even realize it was his birthday. And don't do it if you can't afford when he's two just keep it simple maybe invite gramma's and grampa's(if that's possible) and have some cake. As for the insensitive clods who criticized you-f*** em. Tell them they think it's so damn important, then give you some money to do it. You don't say whether or not you're a single parent, but if you are I know because I've been there, done that bought the T-shirt, and moved on.
2007-03-21 14:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by bonobo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋