So I kinda have a thing for my friend. We're really close, and im usually the guy she comes to for advice about her relationships. One day, she says to me that she thinks she's in love with another guy, even though she's in a relationship. I asked her who....she told all her other friends except me. That made me feel uncomfortable.
Sooner or later, i asked her again. This time, she said that she had broken up with her bf because she had been comparing the two guys. Again, she couldnt tell me.
I didnt wanna be nosy, so i gave her some space. at skool, i found a letter on my USB device. the letter explained that the person who she really cared about was me. now, i dont know what to do. should i really risk my friendship with her? she says that it'll take some time cuz she thinks that its wrong to get into another relationship RIGHT after getting out of another one, so HELP!!!! im accepting all answers, just be honest.
2007-03-21 14:11:39 · 7 answers · asked by evo25zero 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you should see what happens. If she truly thinks that she can't be in a relationship with you because it is wrong then she doesnt really know what she wants, but if it is about risking a friendship i think you should. no matter what happens and if u break up, you dont want 2 always be wondering what might have been. If u truly r friends than it may be different but u will always remain friends. i have seen some good relationships out of being friends first and i think that if you both really care about each other, u shouldnt b using ur friendship as an excuse, u should actually b trying. as long as it is what u both want then u should try. but if she is unsure if it isnt right, give her a little bit of time if it just gets 2 long and she still thinks the same thing dont let urself b strung by a maybe. let her go because if she isnt sure than she doesnt noe what she wants and she isnt worth ur time
2007-03-21 15:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by cesca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I my daughter has gone through, and you can take it from there.
She and Dave had a great friendship. They talked about everything. This friendship slowly grew into something more. The time finally came when they decided to start dating. All of a sudden everything was different between them. They started to argue over things that they once could talk about with no problems. They had agreed right from the start that if things didn't work out, that they would remain friends. That, sadly, is not the way it happened. Through the course of their relationship they broke up many times only to get back together again. I think what they really wanted was their old friendship back. Unfortunately, they had both gone too far and the friendship was unsaveable. The final break-up was on very bad terms. It was so sad, because they did have a wonderful friendship. It just should have never been anything more then that.
When they broke up for the last time, my daughter's heart was not only broken because she lost a man she cared very deeply for, but because she also lost her best friend. She wanted so bad to save that friendship, but they could never go back to what it use to be. They have not been in contact since the break-up which was 6 months ago.
My advise to you is to think long and hard about taking your friendship a step further. You both may think that you can always go back to being friends. Sometimes that just isn't possible. Is it worth it to you to take that chance? You could be destroying a wonderful freindship.
Nothing says you have to take my advice, but please be for-warned!
2007-03-21 14:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Doris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. my daughter went throughthe exact same thing. She is so into this guy, and I know that he really is into her too coz his cousin told me so. He spent almost 6 months trying to decide about going into a relationship with her. They hooked up and after new year, he told her no, they could only be friends for now. He never really gave them a chance, and now, 3 months later, he confessess he loves her and wonders whether they'll make it together. All I can say is this - take the risk and try it. Worst thing that can happen is you remain friends (and it can work, because my daughter has been able to stay friends with this guy) - that seems better than going through life wondering - what if and taking the chance, don't you think?
2007-03-21 14:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's right to wait. Rushing into another relationship before she works out her feelings about the last one will harm the next relationship. If you want a relationship with her, you don't want to be the one she gets confused about. Wait awhile and keep it light. Let things build up at a pace that you're both comfortable with. And if it doesn't work out, be sure that you fight fair so as not to risk the friendship.
2007-03-21 14:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dog, here's what u do, talk, it as easy as that, just take a walk and talk it out. U ask her whats been goin on, she says she;s in a hard place u give her her space and wait, if she says she is over it then u make a decision, an important one. I made mine and things worked out good. Just talk ur mind, ramble if u want, cause as long as its from the heart, it doesnt even matter.
2007-03-22 15:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by What if da world was upsidedown? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should wiegh out the pros and cons. Are you really willing to risk your friendship for a realstionship. If you really care about her then it should be no problem what you should do. You just have to follow your heart and it will show you the way
2007-03-22 13:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing
2007-03-21 14:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋