Well to start off I'm 21. I know I am young but everyday I hear a new story of someone in my class who had or is having a baby. I can name to you at least 14 people off the top of my head. You just always think you graduate from college and then your kids will be in the same grade as there kids. Plus I would love to be 42 when my child is 20 I think that's a nice age. I know I'm not ready but I already feel like my biological clock is ticking.
2007-03-21 13:58:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No I don't have a boyfriend. It's just a feeling and I know I have to wait to meet someone with a stable job and for myself to have a stable job as well. I'm not ready but I just can't help feeling this want and desire and then it makes me feel as if something is wrong with me.
2007-03-21 14:09:34 · update #1
No it's not wrong. Nature made women to be most fertile during their early 20's. Unfortunately the modern world has totally ignored biology and is now in favor of making them all go out to work instead. Which is why you'll see a lot of "career women" in their 30's and 40's seeking medical help to get pregnant - as fertility tends to drop quite dramatically around the age of 35 (sometimes earlier).
If you wish to be a mother I say go ahead. Just make sure you are able to take care of it. Many people who have had their families early on in life also enjoy the fact that when their kids become teenagers, they are still young enough to embark on starting a new career - if they wish to do so.
You only live once - follow your heart. :-)
2007-03-21 14:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all to feel that way.
I am 19. I have a three year old. We have been living on our own for a year now. It's rough but worth it. I also feel the urge to continue reproducing. It's just a feeling ai get when I see a pair of baby booties or a little baby making gassy faces in the check out line at the grocer's. But I also have to remind myself that I have until 35+ to have more children.
I totally understand how you feel. It's normal to feel that way. I would definitely wait until you are in a stable relationship and you know where your life is going. It's really hard to grow up (pick a career, get a home, get an education, move up in the world) and be raising a kid at the same time.
2007-03-21 14:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by JustAmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25, I've been with my boyfriend (living on our own) for 8 years. We have 2 kids, a 3 year old and a 1 year old. They're the best thing that has happened to us, however parenting is no joke. First of all it's hard to find a good sitter and daycare cost at least $1,000.00 per month per kid (I know because I work at one just to get the employee discount) I'm in college but I can only go part time because of my work schedule and we don't have anyone to watch the kids while I'm at school and my boyfriend is at his second job, plus I need my family time at home. Forget about any social life when you're a mom because there's just no time, money, or a good sitter willing to work for cheap (or at all) on the weekends or important holidays for partying like New year's. I can go on and on but trust me when I tell you to listen up find someone who loves you first (because I know lots of struggling ,young single moms who have it worse than me) and work on getting an education and a great career, have all of the fun that you can and when you've done all of that, then have you're baby because you won't have to say "I should have, would have, could have, if I had only waited." Good luck and be patient
2007-03-21 14:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't, find the right guy and get married. To get your kid fix, watch your friends' kids for a few hours. Believe me, the parents will appreciate it. I wanted to have kids early, but my husband and I waited 6 years before we had kids (we got married at age 22). I'll be 48 when my oldest is 20, and I don't think that's old at all...I'm 33 now and my mom is 58, I think she's young! We still do a lot together...I'm meeting her in Las Vegas next week!
2007-03-21 14:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not ticking u are seeing everyone else with kids or having children. You still don't have your career set, not stable at 21 so take your time, think it over. do you have a steady relationship as well. it isn't easy you know. go to www.babycenter.com and do the quiz and see if you ready.
2007-03-21 14:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 6 kids i am just barely 30. i was young. but i love being a mom. remember motherhood is not a career it is a calling. it is a lifetime commitment. it is very rewarding. despite what people say you do not have to totaly give up who you are or miss out on anything people without kids say you will miss. i share all of these things with my kids. realy how much fun would it be to go to the zoo with my husband all the time,nothing new for him but together we go as a family and its so exciting because the kids are there for us to share it with! i can dance goofy anywhere and act like a kid and no one even flinches because i have kids. i get to see all the disney movies and use my kids as an excuse. i can go into the tubes at chucky cheese and micky d's oh and in the ball pit. me and daddy get to make people laugh everyday. we are very popular with alot of fans. we are superheros. we get to laugh everyday too. there is never a day without affection and smiles. toys are still exciting! so are pop rocks,lic a maids,bottle pops any other silly candy. i get to go shopping alot for shoes my favorite thing to do and get the tiniest pairs for little feet. chocolate milk mix is always in the house. lots of hugs and kisses at bed time and before school. being a good role model. bath time is a carnival of fun! light endless light from those eyes that smile. oh how my heart beets wild each time i hold my precious child. need i say more
2007-03-21 14:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by jessiebella677 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of us feel like this. I am 23 and I have 1 child but feel like I need to have other children now before I get too old. I guess it is just instinct. It's normal to feel like you have to or want to do something cause all your friends are. If you know your not ready then don't beat yourself up about it. It's your life and you can do what you want, when you want.
2007-03-21 14:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by kaz 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To start with you have plenty of time. God knows when the time is right. And the best thing you can give your child is a healthy relationship with your spouse. Concentrate on that first and everything else will fall into place.
2007-03-21 14:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by hisangel28 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to feel the need... you are a woman it happens. You know you are not ready and don't plan on having any until you are so I think you will be just fine!
2007-03-21 14:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ PrincessLeia ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you are ready. Don't do what everyone else is doing, do what you want and if you do not get pregnant until you are in just say your 30's that is fine.
2007-03-21 14:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋