A friend has betrayed my trust, by breaching my confidentiality. I am hurt and angry. However, they have apologized via email, so I feel like I should be the "bigger person" and accept the apology. I don't know how to word it. Should I say "thank you for your apology" or "I accept your apology" and leave it at that? Or should I add that I am angry, don't trust them any longer? I'm not sure what to do as I don't really want to talk to this person anymore, but I don't want to appear spiteful either.
2007-03-21 13:57:06 · 11 answers · asked by Shorty 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Split the difference.
"I accept your apology, but you need to understand how incredibly hurt and betrayed I feel. I need some time to think about our freindship."
2007-03-21 14:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the first thing I have to point out, is that this confidentiality breeching friend didnt have the gonads to personally talk to you about how sorry she was. She emailed you. Emailed you... how much more distant could that be? No, that is unacceptable. Do not respond to her email, she was more personal than an email with whomever she gave away your secret to.
Since this really hurt you, and you dont feel you can trust this person. I would leave it at that, but if she ever tries to "warm up" to you again, quietly tell her, that you got her email, and that you found it was a cold way to apoligize for something that obviously hurt your feelings. Tell her, you just cant trust her again, and that you are sorry that she couldnt find a better way to fix this problem.
However if an email appeases you, by all means, tell her you accept it. This is all up to you in the end.
2007-03-21 17:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how many times shes don't this to you if its the first time just make sure she understands how you feel id except the apology but i know it can hurt when someone apologizes online. If this kind of thing happens a lot id stop hanging around her just don't call as much you can still be friends just don't contact her as much.
2007-03-21 14:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you still want to remain friends with them? The reply is dependant on this.
I would simply accept the apology. Your accepting is not however condoning or forgiving the behaviour. She will learn in time that you won't be sharing any confidentail info with her in future.
2007-03-21 14:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are still angry I would say thank you for your apology and leave it at that. And give yourself some more time to cool down then write them another email. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 14:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Thank you" and leave it at that. The other person will know right away that there is more to the story.
2007-03-21 14:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would also tell them you hear what they are saying and you forgive them ... however to forgive is not to forget and that you are still hurt by the betrayal and need time for the feelings to subside.
2007-03-21 14:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by ikaffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I settle for them and supply them to boot. i'm helpful there are people who I easily have disillusioned, while they question me on it, i'm going to apologies if i'm incorrect. existence is to short to hold stupid grudges. x
2016-10-19 07:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by troesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail back: "thank you"
that is it nothing further is required.
You will be cautious with her in the future no matter what.
2007-03-22 05:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say thank you, but be careful with this person.
2007-03-22 22:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋