How do you tell a guy I dont want to go out with him but nicest way possible I still want to be freinds with him ?
2007-03-21 13:51:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the guy is into you, there is no nice way. However, the right thing to do is to tell him he is wonderful, but you want to see other people.
2007-03-21 13:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I think you are such a great guy, and I have loved our time together. But, I must be honest and tell you that right now this just is not the realtionship I am looking for. Maybe I am not sure exactly where my focus needs to be right now, but I want to be upfront in telling you my feelings.
I would still like it very much if we could stay friends. Your friendship is important to me. I hope you will understand and not be hurt. I just really need you to understand me right now and not make it harder than it already is.
Let me work on some things alone for now. Just knowing you will be there as my friend really means so much."
2007-03-21 20:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Good question. There are two types of guys who are probably after you. The pining and obsessive (who are much more rare than most girls think) and the normal guy.
Normal guys, like yours truly, are not subtle and need to be told honestly. No need to overly sugar coat it either, it may send mixed messages. Simply tell him, " I enjoy you're company but you are not my type." Be firm, look him in the eye. These thirty seconds of pain will save much more awkwardness and agony down the road. Believe me...It's far more cruel to be ambivalent.
Guys are not single-minded creatures in dating; he will move on. Probably at a rate you may even find alarming. If you don't send a clear message now, you may think he's "obsessed" but he's probably just confused.
2007-03-21 21:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bluebeetle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know your situation...if you guys are already together and what not.but if youre already in a relationship with this person and you want to tell him that you dont want to be with him anymore and that you "just want to be friends" chances are he might not want to be friends after you break up with him.but wether or not he wants to be friends after you guys break up you should still tell him the truth anyway.and if he doesnt want to be friends then thats ok.atleast youre being honest and you told him the truth.
2007-03-21 20:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He don't wanna be your friend. Just tell him you're not interested that way but you still want to be his friend. He won't want to be your friend, but he gets the message. It's hell to be around a girl you adore and not get to have her, you'd be like his carrot on a stick. A sexy carrot.
2007-03-21 20:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does something for you with the impression that he wants to get closer to you, you could always tell him, "Thanks, you're the bestest friend i ever had. What would I do without a friend like you." Put emphasis on the word friend.
2007-03-21 23:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like, "hey_____. I think you are so sweet and I'm really flattered that u asked me, but i'm really not ready for a serious relationship now. I really want to get to know you though. Can we be friends?"
2007-03-21 20:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by sunshiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "You know I like you, but only as a friend. I'm sorry, and I hope we can still be friends."
2007-03-21 20:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by ifyoulovehim, t e l l him<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard to do, guys are very sensitive, even if they wont attempt it. you need to tell him, that you think he's cool, but you can't see yourselves as anything but friends, it won't feel right to you.
2007-03-21 20:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sunshine's answer is good. But be prepared to repeat it over and over.
Some of us boys are not that good at hearing "no".
2007-03-21 20:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Gary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋