I had a bit of a do with an ex. He said that i had been just his f*** buddy. And was being abusive! So i gave him a few home truths and told him how disgusted I was that he could taint the time we had together. Then he said I was being nasty! And he couldn't cope with me hurting him so badly!!!
I was hurt, I put everything into me and him. I shared everything with him - all my feelings and stuff!
So now I'm left feeling very worthless and cannot start another relationship. I have tried but i just can't share any more!
I just don't know what to do?
2007-03-21 13:47:08 · 28 answers · asked by kiku 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is something wrong with me I think because I can't forget him!!!
Its been a few years and I feel stronger and stronger, no matter how I try and fight it! This has never happened to me before! I have had friends that this happened to. But until it happens to you - you have no idea how powerless this can make you!
Its awful!
2007-03-21 14:08:32 · update #1
Kick him in the nuts and move on girl!
2007-03-21 13:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds of it you are/were truly in love but he just wanted to be with someone have a trophy girlfriend or as you put it a **** buddy.
Dont think about starting another relationship. LEARN SOME SELF-RESPECT FIRST.
Take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself that you're a good person who deserves better, keep doing this until you believe it. If it takes 1000 times so be it sounds silly I know but if you try and dive into another relationship before you've learned true self respect the same thing will happen again. All the best.
2007-03-26 23:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the answers you are getting are a little immature. It pointless putting this guy down all the time, there are very few situations where one person has the sole responsibility for the end of a relationship. Putting down someone or some thing you love is actualy the same as putting you down so don't do it and don't listen to others doing it.
Trust your heart, if you really feel more and more strongly about him then why not try doing something about it, maybe you will get a result and relight a fire with him, maybe you won't, either way you will learn more about your feelings.
2007-03-21 16:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Victorf 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl you have to get back up in the game! you can't sit around the house all day eating ice cream. You can start another relationship if you actually try. There are so many more people in the world that would be perfect for you. I'm a man and i don't say people are my f**** buddy. So not all men say that. Only jerks would say that to someone! What I'm saying is to get back in the game and find another person!
Email me if this is good (majcapt@yahoo.com)
2007-03-21 13:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by majcapt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow a few years huh. well you need to move on. now that son't mean that you not gonna have feelins for him nomore, but it can help. When you meet a guy, if you think that he could even just be a good friend, then take your chances. sometimes it works out.you don't have to have feelins for a man,even if you just want sex.i had somebody that was like that.we still together.its been a minute.when you so get in a relationship, then trust only a certain amount and have no strong expectations. life is not a fairy tale.for your own protection, be aware as much as possible. try to make sure that your feelins is not otta control as much as possible.
2007-03-29 12:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what an ***. gal keep your head up and forget about that looser. No-one deserves to be treated like that. Don't take him back. its his loss not yours . THE right guy will come and sweep u off ya feet. Cheer up and don't be depressed loosers like him don't deserve good pple like u. So all i have to say is kick him to the curb tell him to go to hell. he is just a poor example to the male race. Don't be afraid to open up to new experiences he is now a thing of the past .And that's a lesson right there, take this lesson and don't be any man's door mat. jus let it go it'll take time but u have to make the best of it find someone else that will respect u and won't use u
all the very best
2007-03-21 14:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bluey07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this turkey left you feeling so blue and bad. Surely you don't really want me to justify his behavior, right? There is no guaranteed way of eliminating the turds in relationships. But, go slowly in getting close to a guy. Don't let any "little" things slip. By that, I mean, never accept little disrespects, fibs, lies, statements that seem too good to be true, or any behavior that doesn't honor you, your wishes and desires.
Most of the time, we get into trouble by not having sufficiently high standards for those we let into our emotional lives.
2007-03-21 13:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is a total jerk
i can only offer some wisdom i saw in some graffiti --- (there is a long story about the graffiti but thats another time and place) --- learn to love like you have never been hurt before
this is very profound ---- if you dont make yourself vulnerable then you dont allow for the possibility of love --- you are also allowing yourself to feel worthless --- its not what other people think of you its how you think of yourself -- love yourself again and other people will love you as well ---- hugs and best wishes
2007-03-21 13:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are going through it!
But you need to get your self-esteem up!
That is why you are feeling this way so long. If you had high self-esteem you would get back out on the dating field. You give his words weight, no one can do that but you.
So to start on the road to recovery you can go to the gym, think of something that you wanted to do that you never had the time to do and just do it. etc.
Time and self-esteem building is the only tried and true method.
2007-03-29 07:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by urban guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman stop being naive this man is using you and you him, move on, To be honest you cannot have a ****buddy its to intimate to stay as friends, he used you and I suspect you used him pull yourself together I am sure you are alovely person, move on delete him from your life change numbers everything and start again, You are not worthless you are all power to you and your life, you control it noone else. Good Luck and take care
2007-03-25 12:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't behave like this and like most men, I therefore have nothing to justify. It would seem that you are just one of the world's natural victims who always manage to attach themselves to the most boorish that society can hawk up and have to blame everbody else for it.
In fact, you are still doing it. You plant your elbow on the table and invite every man to arm wrestle with you but by the end of your question, you are in tears again.
2007-03-21 14:12:01 · answer #11 · answered by Jellicoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋