One of my friends is saying that he wants me and him to hook up, but i have a boyfriend that i absolutly adore and love! And it just sort of disturbs me that he knows that i am dating Bo and he's gonna tell me this! Last year i used to have a huge crush on him, but then i met Bo and i fell in love with him!! This guy hasn't been all that into me until just recently! I just need some help with this, my boyfriend has no clue about it, but it will probably get around to him sooner or later! ANyways if you have any advise, i would love to hear it!
2007-03-21 13:39:35 · 20 answers · asked by Sunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's to say? You love Bo. You USED to have a huge crush on this guy, but there's someone you love even more. I am in a similar predicament. I used to really like this one guy, but couldn't have him; I moved on and found my boyfriend--whom I love dearly--and now it turns out that the original guy likes me now. Psh.
I'd suspect that part of the reason that he's suddenly interested is that you're taken. I'm just speculating, but sometimes people just become more appealing when that happens. You'll realize you like a person you never did before as soon as that person starts dating someone else. I think part of it is the allure of the forbidden and the attraction of the unattainable.
That being said, I'd say the best way to handle this is to be open with your friend. Tell him flat out that you're flattered (if that is the case), but you have a boyfriend and you would appreciate it if he would show some discretion. Complimenting a girl is one thing, but hitting on her, knowing that she is in a relationship is just plain disrespectful and imprudent. If he's a true friend, he'll get the hint and leave you alone.
People fall in love with people they can't have. It hurts, but the nicest thing you can do for your friend, your boyfriend, and yourself is to speak candidly with your friend about the situation.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 13:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that this guy just wants to be with you because you have a boyfriend. Ignore him, you don't an contrary person like him in your life. But talk to your boyfriend about this before he hears it from someone else. Let Bo know that he's the one you care for and tell him that you're worried about this situation with the other guy
2007-03-21 20:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lasaro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with your boyfriend deeply then screw this other guy because chances are he only wants you now that he cannot have you and if he did not know well if you really wanted him you would have told him how you felt aah let's say A YEAR ago..If you are in love with your boyfriend just cut of contacts with the other person because hanging around him knowing how you feel about him is a recipe for DISASTER!
2007-03-21 20:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Babirownii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love Bo, then stick with Bo. Forget about the other guy. You can only choose 1 man only.
2007-03-21 20:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend then don't even worry over the other guy. He didn't want you when you were single, thyen he doesn't deserve you now. He had his chance and he blew it. You moved on and found someone better. Good for you. And about your boyfriend finding out....if you think he'll get upset about it, you should tell him before he finds out from someone else. If you don't, he might start to think you're trying to keep things from him and that's why you haven't said anything to him about it. Good luck.
2007-03-21 20:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by baby_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that This shouldn't even be a question. You know your in love and the other guy wasn't intending for you to fall so deep, so now he's looking for a way to get the chase back that he once had. Don't give it to him, he also might be looking for a plot to spread around. Meaning, he might want to hook up just one time to boost his ego for the boys!
2007-03-21 20:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels a little jealous at the moment and I really don't think you should dump your boyfriend who you love for a guy who never noticed how special you are until you found your boyfriend.
2007-03-21 20:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by desiree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***** IT--if you love this BO then stay with BO...but unfortunately it sounds like you DO NOT love Bo. why would you even ask this question if you did? You obviously want to stray.
You biatch.
2007-03-21 20:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell the guy he missed his chance and nothing's going to come of it.
Make sure you don't let him think there's still a possibility of hooking up. He needs to move on.
2007-03-21 20:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in your life you will find that many men will be willing to date you.If you truly love your boyfriend, you wouldn`t care about any other man.So what if he likes you? Just say "i`m taken" .He wants you cause he can`t have you.
2007-03-21 20:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by HC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋