he treats me like crap! what should i do?

Question

there is this boy that likes me and i've started to like him. he treats me like crap and when i call him out on it he says that he was just kidding. i really try to be nice to him and pay attention to him but he takes advantage of me all of the time. he was the one that liked me a lot at first, but now i feel like i am begging for his attention! i cant just ignore the situation, i need to do something about it. not to help i have the lowest selfesteem possible and he just makes me feel even more worthless. what should i do to make myself stop hurting?

Answer 1

RUN! DON'T WALK AWAY FROM THIS GUY!
He doesn't love you if he treats you that way, he uses you. And when he gets you cowed enough and dependent enough on his approval, he could move to the next level and start abusing you. No matter how low your self-esteem you have to believe you deserve better than that kind of relationship. Someone is out there that will treat you like the queen of the may, and who will make you feel good about yourself (sign of love) and about them as well.

Maybe he is just immature & self-centered, but he is not the one for you.

Here's some books you might check out:

The Real Rules for Girls by Mindy Morgenstern, Courteney Cox Arquette (Foreword by), Amy Inouye (Designer) (ALibris)

How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved by Sandra L. Brown (ALibris)

Destructive Relationships: A Guide to Changing the Unhealthy Relationships in Your Life by Dr. Jill Murray (ALibris)

Surviving Adolescence: Learning to Like Yourself and Make Wise Decisions by Jim Burns (ALibris)

No Visible Wounds: Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men by Mary Susan Miller (ALibris)

Time to Break Free: Meditations for the First 100 Days After Leaving an Abusive Relationship by Judith R. Smith (ALibris)

The Dark Side of Courtship: Physical and Sexual Aggression
by Sally A. Lloyd, Beth C. Emery (ALibris)

When Love Hurts: A Woman's Guide to Understanding Abuse in Relationships by Jill Cory, Karen McAndless-Davis
(ALibris)

Daily Reflections for Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey

I Closed My Eyes: Revelations of a Battered Woman (Paperback)by Michele Weldon (Author) (amazon.com)

In Love and in Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships--Author Barrie Levy (Powell's Books)

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel, PH.D. (ALibris)

When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can't Do Anything Right by Ann Jones, Susan Schechter (ALibris)

Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman: Wisdom and Hope for Women at Any Stage of Emotional Abuse Recovery by Beverly Engel, PH.D. (ALibris)

Ditch That Jerk: Dealing with Men Who Control and Abuse Women by Jayne Pamela, Pamela Jayne

Answer 2

All forms of relationships- friendships, romantic relationships, or otherwise- should only exist under many certain conditions (among them being kindness, loyalty, providing support to one another, and making one another feel good about themselves). In this case, it seems as if your relationship with this boy does not comply with these standards. It is ironic, though not completely bizzare that you could be attracted to someone who does not know how to treat you with decency, because who we fall for is a matter beyond our own control. However, because this boy is clearly emotionally unstable and has proven himself cold and disrespectful, I think that your best bet is to try and get over him and open your eyes to other guys that know how to treat a girl properly. I know it must be tough, but you need to heal and you need to move on. You seem sweet and you deserve much, much better.

Answer 3

Cami, what you need to do is ignore him and kick his butt to the curb. Your self image would and will improve after you surround your self with everything Cami and make people that believe in Cami more apart of your life and things Cami believes in apart of your life and look inside Cami for all the wonderful things she does and have done. When you where placed on this earth as a female that was natures queue at telling you how trully priceless you are.

Answer 4

Drop him like you would drop a hot curling iron barrel if you grabed it with your hand. Seriously, you dont need to beg for affection or attention. He should automatically give it to you. If he treat you like crap now, later on down the line it will get worse.
Your low self-esteem, honey, is something you will have to work on yourself. No one will respect you and love you unless you respect and love yourself. No matter what, you love you first before you love another.

Answer 5

I want I would let you know why, and I am a man. I additionally want that men might exhibit extra appreciate to ladies. They deserve it, they're mighty, and they are the purpose my middle nonetheless feels love. When I ultimately uncover a woman that may appreciate a great man like me, who desires to attend til marriage for intercourse, and who desires to regard her proper, then I might be in a position to exhibit her that no longer all men are jerks.

Answer 6

Obviously.....if you allow yourself to still want a guy that treats you like crap, your self esteem is lower than a snakes belly.
C'mon girl.....seriously, don't you want better for yourself? Now, go look in the mirror and say to yourself "I'm a fantastic girl and I deserve to be treated with respect".

Answer 7

Well make him feel worhless and kick his A*S*S to the curb. You don't need that kind of abuse, he is also a controlling dimwit. SO move on and find another one. you not need to have a boy treat you bad like that. Hey find a good one then have him go over to him and slap him around for been rude to you.

Answer 8

can't you see? this guy is definitely NOT for you. i know that it takes a lot to get over being hurt like that. you'll just have to try and accept the fact that he isn't worthy of treating you this way. you're better than the way he treats you. you will get over it in time

Answer 9

Eh, your a smart girl. What I don't understand is how you can say he does all that and not know what to do. Your not tied to him in anyway just cause HE likes you. Thats his fault. Leave him alone and let him find out his mistakes!

Answer 10

You've tried to communicate about it. You've failed. So end the relationship.

It's not even a close call as to whether that's the right way to go.

I'm sorry.

The problem is 90%+ him, 10%- you.