Ive been trying to casually see a guy for 5 months now. In this time we have had sex rarely. When we are "getting it on", he becomes firm but then when we are just about to do the dirty, he becomes limp. I have not had problems like this with a guy b4 and he says this has never happened to him with other women. So what the hell is going on?
2007-03-21 13:38:25 · 14 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be from nervousness.If a guy is a little nervous about his "bedroom" surroundings it's difficult to keep an erection.It could also be the feelings between you two.Something unresolved? guilt? unsure of how you "like it"? I would just have a heart to heart talk to try to find the problem.There is definately something not quite right.I'm not saying it's something bad but, it's something.Good luck Dear!
2007-03-21 13:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by rockman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many reasons causing him not to 'function' properly. He could be taking drugs which could be affecting it. He could be nervous or uncomfortable. Talk to him about it and if you cant figure out what the problem might be go to a doctor. Offer to go with him if thats what he wants. He will be embarrassed about telling anyone but let him know if there is a problem he wont be able to get it fixed if he doesnt tell someone. Let him know that you dont think any less of him for having the problem and let him know how proud you are of him for trying to seek a solution. In the meantime, try doing things to excite him. Strip for him, maybe masturbate in front of him, talk dirty to him, do what you can to add some spice to the relationship.
2007-03-21 20:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to me before. No its not that he doesnt find you attractive or anything like that. Even though he might disagree the real reason is because you guys have never had sex before and he is probably a tad bit nervous. To solve this problem: while he is stiff put your hand in his pants and play with his **** to keep him stiff and take if from there. Trust me, there is no way he will shrink with your hand on it. My girlfriend did it to me and thats how I got over it. After the first couple times he will be normal.
2007-03-21 20:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by StraPPeD!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus for a while on acts that don't require a condom.
After you have more of a track record of success, take another shot at intercourse.
2007-03-21 20:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should know each other better, come on, it have only been 5 months
2007-03-21 21:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by cHicKy cHiCk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask each other what you like to have done to each other , and don't like...its a good way to really keeps things UP and hot...good luck.
2007-03-21 20:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by qckdrw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably isnt attracted to you sexually. You need to move on. He probably likes you as friend more than romantic.
2007-03-21 20:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Navulam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just not attracted to you, your not his type probably not to say your ugly but maybe he's attracted to a different race or just a different type of girl.
2007-03-21 20:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
couple reasons...but i would say if it happens right at the start of things like that...bad chemistry!
2007-03-21 20:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by boosted 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your both just really unattractive.
2007-03-21 20:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by mkt0435 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋