Ok, we broke up the first week of Jan. He's now engaged to another women and sends me a text saying that he's confused and not sure if thats what he wants and that he really didnt want us to end but wanted to feel loved, I believe he cheated with this girl since in 2 months their making wedding plans? We were togther for 2 years and engaged for one. What do you think?
2007-03-21 13:23:33 · 16 answers · asked by mahoganay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you already know the answer to your question. What he wants you to do is assure him and to wiggle out of marrying the other woman. What I suggest you do if we are on the same page is go a head and assure him that his love and heart belongs to the girlfriend that he is engaged too for at least 2 months cause you needed us to end so that you could feel loved and unconfused and you don't want to be back in the land of confusion with him.
2007-03-21 13:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just delete him and his phone number from your life. Do not talk with him. Imagine this in the reverse, if you broke up in January and he's already engaged, he was probably calling her and telling her the same things. This is a guy that can't commit or be faithful. Run the other way now and consider yourself lucky. Remember the old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." It is true. You can do better, Sweetie.
2007-03-21 13:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, do you still like him? If u don't, it's his life. He chose to cheat on that girl and chose to marry her (if it works out). You shouldn't be too worried if he was the one who broke up with you.. If he is not sure this is what he wants, then she is not the right one for him. When ppl get engaged, you should feel that this is the person that you want to be with forever and all eternity. Hope this helps and that your ex finds the right one.
2007-03-21 13:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me and my ex fiance (dumped me in December for a woman he met online, engaged for 2 years togeather for 3). I know what your going though. What's to say he won't do it again. Tell him he should have thought before he jumped (and I'm saying jumped at that other woman and cheated). You deserve someone who is not going to give you drama and BS. Enjoy some time to yourself and tell him to be happy with the new girl. Dating someone twice who dumped you for another woman usually ends badly anyways. He needs to stop dating and understand where HE is in his life and what he wants. You need to find what you want and where you are in your life. Then find yourself the person who fits that. I've just done that and I've never been happier!
2007-03-21 13:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Importantly how do you feel? If you want him back, want to go back to things, then this is the time to do it...this is the time to tease him, remind him of what he has missed and remind him about all the great times together without being needy.
but if you push away and ignore him...let those text messages come in without hitting the reply button they will soon stop. and he will be getting married and he will be out of your life.
So its more how do you feel? Do you want him? Simple yes or no.... good luck.
2007-03-21 13:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Naky247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confused. Do you want to be treated this way again? Move on, once it is over, it is over. His planning a wedding that quickly isn't an accident. It also shows how needy he is for someone to take care of him. He's not worth it, and he could totally change his mind again next month. I say again, move on. Be strong!
2007-03-21 13:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by nanlwart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A JERK! Don't let him try to walk in and out of your life. When people cheat, they are getting the best of eachother and think it is "oh so great". Now that the loser is with her, reality slapped him in the face and he realized what he had. NO WAY! Let him suffer like the no good disrespectful jerk that he is, you will find someone MUCH better!!!
He did not respect you then and it will not change. Trust your gut and walk away with your head high!
Best of luck to you
2007-03-21 13:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by AE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this guy go. He should not be asking you for help. Honestly like why would you want to know about him and his fiance. He may just be trying to hurt you. Don't talk to him or text him back. Good luck!
2007-03-21 13:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by lc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is wanting to have some fun before the big day. Dont fall for it.
2007-03-21 13:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just seeing if he could have you back. Let him go and move on.
2007-03-21 13:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋