SHE HAS BEEN SEPERATED FROM HER BOYFRIEND(WHO BY THE WAY IS LEGALLLY MARRIED TO SOME ONE ELSE) SHE WAS AT THE BUS STATION WITH THE TICKET IN HER HAND AND HER 1 YR OLD READY TO COME HOME BECAUSE HE WALKED OUT ON THEM 2 WEEKS AGO AND IS BEING EVICTED IN 2 WEEKS SHE HAS NO JOB AND ONLY FRIENDS TO STAY WITH AND SHE REFUNDED HER TICKET AND CHANGED HER MIND.hER BOYFRIEND IS TREATING HER WITH HIS PARENTS MONEY AND PRESTIGE AND TELLING HER HE HAS A LAWYER, HE IS JUST STRINGING HER ALONG. BUT SHE CANT SEE IT HER FRIENDS ARE HIS FRIENDS AND SHE AHS NO FAMILY WHERE SHE IS AND NEEDS EMOTIONAL SUPORT BUT SHE CHANGED HER MIND AND NOW IM WORRIED THEY ARE (HIS FAMILY) IS CONSPIRING TO TAKE HER CHILD. IM SCARED FOR HER I AM EMOTIONALLY TORE UP OVER THIS.I KNOW SHE NEEDS TIME BUT SHE IS ALSO LETTING HIM BULLY HER AND SHE IS BROKE AND IM SO WORRIED,I CANT SLEEP I CANT EAT AND I FEEL SO HELPLESS I DONT HAVE THE FINANCAL MEANS TO RUSH DOWN THERE I WISH SHE WOULD JUST COME HOME TO CLEAR HER MIND.
2007-03-21 13:20:27 · 11 answers · asked by missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her your worried about her try and give her space even though its not the best situation
2007-03-21 14:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for her to do is immediately file an Order to Show Cause with the courts and ask for full Physical and Legal custody and request child support.
She should check with the local Bar Association to find out about legal aid if she is intimidated by lawyers, truth be told I think Lawyers are a waste of money in Custody cases cause the judge is going to rule in the best interest of the child, lawyer or no lawyer and in this day and age being with the mother is in the child's best interest in most cases. Plus judges recognize bullying tactics and frown on it.
The fact of the matter is he abandoned them and left them high and dry, which would look very bad in court.
Best of luck!
2007-03-21 14:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rustb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a mess. First, you need to get your daughter away from this guy. Do you have a relative in another state where you can send her with the 1 year old and you meet them there. She has made so many bad decisions, it will be difficult for you to get through to her that she needs to straighten out her life for the sake of her child. Does she have an education? A career? What? If not, she needs to get interested in some type of career. There is career training available in many states for women like her. She needs to start acting like an adult or he probably will be able to take the child from her and he will get custody. That should be enough to get her to wake up to this situation. You may want to have her call the Rape & Abuse Crisis center in your city. I understand that she hasn't been raped but the also deal with abuse and she is in an abusive relationship. They have counselors that can help her. That is, if she wants to be helped. You also have to come to the realization that not everyone wants help. She may want to live in chaos and crisis her whole life. If so, tell her you will see her on holidays but will not help her continue to ruin her future. Good luck.
2007-03-21 13:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling your daughter what you think might happen and exactly how you feel? To recite it to her would sound to her like you were nagging possibly but to blurt it all out with the emotion and anquish you feel behind your words, may just make her take a bit more notice and start to understand how you feel. Tell her you just cant go on this way,not sleeping or eating is doing you no good. I hope she starts to listen to you and take your advice and come home.
2007-03-21 13:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i gather from all this that the baby is his... she needs her own attorney. you may not have the financial means to help but it will speak volumes if you can do some research and help her find a good attorney. if you can help with just a few hundred dollars - though the attorney may give a free consultation - do so.
people are inclined to listen to advice that costs them (or someone) money. a lawyer will help her see what deep SH*T this guy has gotten her into.
your advice, bless your heart, will probably fall on deaf ears. so save your voice and see if you can help out a little on the financial side. good luck.
2007-03-21 13:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 07:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using caps, it indicated yelling and is annoying.
Your problem is a heartbreaking one. You need to gently tell your daughter that this looser is using her. She won't hear it the first few times because she is "in love" but keep it up. Let her know you love her and your worry over her is making her sick. Good luck.
2007-03-21 13:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may feel trapped and she may also think that if she comes home that you will rag on her. Perhaps, this is the time for you to be a comfort to her. Also, she may just need you to listen to her instead of you saying "you are making wrong choices"
2007-03-21 14:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother I would go to my daughter. Get her in a secluded place and see if you can talk some sense into her. You are her mommy and being in front of her you may be able to show her things crystal clear.
Now get going......
Good luck!
2007-03-21 13:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need help good luck i hope things get better
2007-03-21 13:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋